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人生可以走直线

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Part 1 Never Give Up 不悲观,不放弃

如果失败了,请记住教训。不悲观,不放弃,面对现实。有时候成功只在于坚持。

Defeat 失败

Defeat, my Defeat, my solitude and my aloofness; you are dearer to me than a thousand triumphs, and sweeter to my heart than all world glory.

Defeat, my Defeat, my self-knowledge and my defiance, through you I know that I am yet young and swift of foot, and not to be trapped by withering laurels. And in you I have found aloneness and the joy of being shunned and scorned.

Defeat, my Defeat, my shining sword and shield, in your eyes I have read that to be enthroned is to be enslaved, and to be understood is to be leveled down, and to be grasped is but to reach one’s fullness, and like a ripe fruit to fall and be consumed.

Defeat, my Defeat, my bold companion, you shall hear my songs and my cries and my silences, and none but you shall speak to me of the beating of wings, and urging of seas, and of mountains that burn in the night, and you alone shall climb my steep and rocky soul.

Defeat, my Defeat, my deathless courage, you and I shall laugh together with the storm, and together we shall dig graves for all that die in us, and we shall stand in the sun with a will, and we shall be dangerous.

失败,帮你否定了一条错的路,那摆在你面前的、通往成功的选择就又少了一项,成功概率又高了一成,难道这不值得感恩吗?

参考翻译(高昆)

失败,我的失败,我的孤独和超脱,对我来说,你比一千次胜利更可亲可爱,而对我的心灵来说,你要比所有的荣耀都甜美。

失败,我的失败,我的自知与反抗,通过你,我知道我还步伐矫健,宝刀未老,还没被干枯的月桂所捕获。在你那儿,我发现了孤独,品尝到了被遗弃和被嘲笑的欢乐。

失败,我的失败,我光芒四射的剑与盾,从你眼中,我读出登基为王就是钻入牢笼,被了解就是被拉下水,被抓牢就是达到成熟,像熟透的水果掉落下来被人吃掉一样。

失败,我的失败,我鲁莽的伙伴,你会听到我的歌唱、哭泣和沉默,你会跟我谈起羽翼翱翔、大海澎湃、山脉在黑夜里燃烧,你独自攀登我那陡峭多石的灵魂。

失败,我的失败,我不灭的勇气,你我将在暴风雨中狂笑,我们将为我们当中所有逝去的人掘墓,我们会坚定地站在太阳下,我们也会充满危险。

Do Not Ignore the Adversity 从另一个角度看逆境

All of us ought to be able to brace ourselves for the predictable challenges and setbacks that crop up everyday. If we expect that life won’t be perfect, we’ll be able to avoid that impulse to quit. But even if you are strong enough to persist the obstacle course of life and work,sometimes you will encounter an adverse event that will completely knock you on your back.

Whether it’s a financial loss, the loss of respect of your peers or loved ones, or some other traumatic events in your life, these major setbacks leave you doubting yourself and wondering if things can ever change for the better again.

Adversity happens to all of us, and it happens all the time. Some form of major adversity is either going to be there or it’s lying in wait just around the corner. To ignore adversity is to succumb to the ultimate self-delusion.

But you must recognize that history is full of examples of men and women who achieved greatness despite facing hurdles so steep that easily could have crashed their spirit and left them lying in the dust. Abraham Lincoln overcomes a difficult child-hood, depression, the death of two sons, and constant ridicule during the Civil War to become arguably greatest president ever. Helen Keller made an impact on the world despite being deaf, dumb, and blind from an early age. Franklin Roosevelt had polio.

There are endless examples. These were people who not only looked adversity in the face but learned valuable lessons about overcoming difficult circumstances and were able to move ahead.

逆境可以击败弱者,也可以成就强者。成为生命的强者,你需要勇于直面逆境。

参考翻译(胡尊艳)

每个人都应作好准备去迎接每天的挫折和挑战。如果我们期盼人生十全十美,就不要放弃对人生的追求。但即使你足够坚强,能够克服生活和工作中的困难,有时一些不好的事还是足以将你击垮。

无论是出现了财政危机,还是失去朋友、爱人的尊敬,或是遭受生命重创,这些风浪都会使你对自己产生怀疑,甚至怀疑人生的前景是否还会有光明。

人生迟早要经历逆境。也许有的人正在经历,有的人在等待经历。忽视逆境无疑相当于自欺欺人。

但你不能否认,历史上还是有很多历经重重足以将他们彻底摧毁的磨难,但终获成功的人。亚伯拉罕·林肯克服了童年的不幸、情绪的低潮期,也克服了丧失两个儿子的悲痛以及内战中接踵而来的嘲笑,可以说他是有史以来最伟大的总统。尽管海伦·凯勒早年双目失明,双耳失聪,也不能说话,但她还是对世界产生了重大影响。而富兰克林·罗斯福曾患小儿麻痹症。

这样的例子数不胜数。这些人不仅勇于直面逆境,而且从中汲取到了引领他们勇往直前的宝贵经验。

Learning From Failure 从失败中学习

Why are so many people so afraid of failure? Quite simply because no one tells us how to fail so that failure becomes an experience that will lead to growth. We forget that failure is part of the human condition and that every person has the fight to fail.

Most parents work hard at either preventing failure or protecting their children from the knowledge that they have failed. One way is to lower standards. A mother describes her child’s hastily made table as “Perfect”!Even though it wobbles on uneven legs. Another way is to shift blame, if John fails science, his teacher is unfair or stupid.

The trouble with failure-prevention devices that they leave a child unequipped for life in the real world. The young need to learn that no one can be best at everything, no one can win all the time and that it’s possible to enjoy a game even when you don’t win. A child who’s not invited to a birthday party, who doesn’t make the honor roll or the baseball team, feels terrible, of course. But parents should not offer a

失败可以让人不必再去冒险,因为失败的人几乎没有什么可以再失去的了。

参考翻译(单窈敏)

为什么这么多人都害怕失败呢?原因很简单,从没有人告诉我们如何失败,以至于大家都认为失败是成长过程中必须经历的。我们忘了,失败是人类生存条件的一部分,每个人都有与失败斗争的经历。

许多父母都努力工作,或许是为了避免失败,或许是为了不让自己的孩子知道他们失败过。有一种办法是降低标准,一位母亲将自己孩子匆匆做成的桌子说成是“完美的”,即使这张桌子在不均衡桌腿的支撑下摇晃不稳。另一种办法是“嫁祸”,如果约翰考试没过,那他父母就会认为他的老师是不公平的或愚蠢的。

这些防止失败的策略所带来的麻烦是,他们没能使孩子在这个真实的世界里作好独立生活的准备。年轻人需要知道,没有谁能在各方面都做到最好,没有谁总能获胜——即使你没有获胜,你也可以享受这场比赛。一个没有受到生日宴会邀请、没有上光荣榜或进入棒球队的孩子,他会感到很沮丧,这是当然的。但是父母不应该给他们一个快速安慰奖励或者说“这都没关系的”,事实上并不是没关系。应该允许年轻人经历失望,并且让他们在帮助下学会控制它。

失败不可能使人愉快,它会伤害到成年人,同样也会伤害到孩子。但是,一旦你学会运用它,它就能对你的生活有积极的贡献。第一步是问:“为什么我会失败?”不要受到本性冲动的影响去责备别人。问问自己到底做错了什么,如何才能改进。如果有人帮助你,就不要羞于请教。成功,会激发人们重复自己的行为,根本没有失败能教给人的东西多。你可以从一场糟糕的宴会上学会如何办一场成功的宴会。从第一次失败的选房经历中学会如何寻找第二个。明确的失败甚至能够使人涌现出新的想法,改变方向。我的一个朋友在学了12年芭蕾舞之后去了一家专业公司进行面试。她被拒绝了。“我还需要进一步接受培训吗?”她问。芭蕾舞教练摇了摇头。“你不可能成为一名舞蹈演员,”他说,“你不是块跳芭蕾舞的材料。”

在这样的情况下,利用失败的方法是勇敢地进行自我总结,问问:“我还剩下什么?我还可以做什么?”我的朋友收好了她的芭蕾舞鞋,然后转而从事舞蹈治疗,这是一个对她来说很在行也很实用的领域。失败可以让人不必再去冒险,因为失败的人几乎没有什么可以再失去的了。通常,失败还会让人的精力复苏,认知到一些新的可能性。

Problems or Opportunities 是困难还是机遇

We live in an unusual time with corporate downsizing, restructuring,and the increase in global competition. Some view these times as problematic; others see the incredible opportunities created by such change.

In the last decade there has been a huge growth in home-based and service-industry businesses. These businesses have been started by individuals with the courage to pursue their dreams, Yet, for every idea that is implemented, thousands of ideas never get beyond the conceptual stage—from the imagination to a plan of action.

What holds people back from pursuing their dreams and acting on their great ideas? I believe it’s fear of failure. Someone once said, “there are a lot of ways to become a failure, but never taking a chance is the most successful way.” I’ve also heard it said that, “people don’t plan to fail, they fail to plan.”

Companies these days must be willing and able to change constantly.Sometimes companies change course to survive, and sometimes they do so because an opportunity is too good to resist. I know of a small company that provided a messenger service several years ago. A sudden major increase in corporate use of fax machines nearly put this small company out of business. Fortunately, the owner of the company was astute enough to realize other global corporate trends happening at the same time. The owner shifted gears from offering a messenger service to providing an off site records storage service and soon business was booming once again.

It all comes down to perspective. When there was a downturn in the economy, some people could say, “This is terrible! With the downturn in the economy, nobody will have a budget for my service.” Or others thought, “This is great! With the tightening of budgets and the loss of support staff, there’s an even greater need for professionals to be effective, which is precisely what I’m here to help them do!”

积极的人在每一次忧患中都看到一个机会,而消极的人则在每个机会中都看到某种忧患。

参考翻译(胡尊艳)

我们生活在一个非比寻常的时代,企业进行精简和重组,全球竞争也在不断加剧。很多人认为这是个困难重重的时代,但是有些人却认为这样的时代会带来无限的、难以置信的商机。

在过去的十年中,家族企业和服务企业大量涌现。这些企业主要是由那些敢于追逐梦想的人士开创的。然而,所有得以实行的创意都经历了反反复复的修改。

是什么阻碍了人们追求和实现梦想的道路呢?我认为是对失败的恐惧。有人曾经说过,“导致失败的原因有很多,而不敢冒险是最彻底的一个。”我也听说过这样一句话:“非败于计划,而是败在没有计划。”

当今的公司必须不断地、主动地进行变革。有时变革是出于生存的需要,有时是因为难以抗拒绝佳机会的诱惑。我认识一个几年前提供信使服务的小公司,企业传真机的大量使用几乎使这个小公司濒临破产,幸运的是,该公司的老板很精明,他敏锐地觉察到了当时出现的另外一些国际商业趋势,并将公司的业务从提供信使服务转为提供场外记录存储服务,很快企业便重新焕发出生机。

态度决定一切。当经济低迷时,有些人会抱怨,“太糟了,经济这么不景气,没有人会出钱雇用我了。”而有些人则会认为,“太好了,随着预算的收紧和员工的精简,就会急需大量的专业人员,这正是我一展宏图的好机会啊!”

There Are No Mistakes, Only Lessons 没有错误,只有教训

Human growth is a process of experimentation, trial, and error,ultimately leading to wisdom. Each time you choose to trust yourself and take action, you can never quite be certain how the situation will turn out.Sometimes you are victorious, and sometimes you become disillusioned.The failed experiments, however, are no less valuable than the experiments that ultimately prove successful; in fact, you usually learn more from your perceived“failures”than you do from your perceived“success”.

If you have made what you perceive to be a mistake or failed to live up to your own expectations, you will most likely put up a barrier between your essence and the part of you that is the alleged wrong-doer.However, perceiving past actions as mistakes implies guilt and blame,and it is not possible to learn anything meaning while you are engaged in blaming. Therefore, forgiveness is required when you are harshly judging yourself.

Forgiveness is the act of erasing an emotional debt. There are four kinds of forgiveness.

The first is beginner forgiveness for yourself.

The second of forgiveness is beginner forgiveness for another.

The third kind of forgiveness is advanced forgiveness of yourself.This is for serious transgressions, the ones you carry with deep shame.When you do something that violates your own values and ethics, you create a chasm between your standards and your actual behavior. In such a case, you need to work very hard at forgiving yourself for these deeds so that you call close this chasm and realign with the best part of yourself.This does not mean that you should rush to forgive yourself or not feel regret or remorse; but wallowing in these feelings for a protracted period of time is not healthy, and punishing yourself excessively will only creates a bigger gap between you and your ethics.

The last and perhaps most difficult one is the advanced forgiveness of another. At some time of our life, you may have been severely wronged or hurt by another person to such a degree that forgiveness seems impossible. However, harboring resentment and revenge fantasies only keeps you trapped in victimhood. Under such a circumstance, you should force yourself to see the bigger picture, by so doing, you will be able to shift the focus away from the anger and resentment. It is only through forgiveness that you can erase wrongdoing and clean the memory.When you can finally release the situation, you may come to see it as a necessary part of your growth.

从成功中你可以学到东西,但事实上,你通常可以从失败中学到更多。

参考译文(彭琪淋)

人的成长是一个不断体验、不断尝试、不断犯错,并最终通向智慧的过程。每次你自信满满,并付诸行动,你从来都不确定结果会是怎样。有时候你会载誉而归,有时候你会大失所望。但是失败的经历和成功的经历一样具有可贵的价值。从成功中你可以学到东西,但事实上,你通常可以从失败中学到更多。

如果你发觉自己犯了错或者不能达到自己的预期目标,你往往会在真正的自我和可疑的做错事的人之间放置一道障碍。但是,把过去的行为当做犯错只会增加内疚和自责,而在自责中你是不可能学到任何有意义的教训的。因此,当你过分苛求自己的时候,你应该对自己拥有宽恕之心。

宽恕是指完全放下曾经的芥蒂。宽恕有四种类型:第一种是对自己的低层次的宽恕。第二种是对他人过失的低层次的宽恕。第三种是对自己更进一步的宽恕。这涉及到你严重的过失,即那些使你深深自责的过失。当你的所作所为违背了自己的价值观和道德观的时候,你的准则和自己的实际行为之间往往会出现一道裂痕。在这种情形下,你要非常努力地原谅自己的这些过失,这样你才能修复裂痕,重新塑造最好的自我。这并不意味着你可以仓促地原谅自己或是不知悔恨;而是因为,长时间地沉浸在懊悔中不利于健康,而且过度惩罚自己只会使自己和自己的道德准则之间的鸿沟愈加扩大。第四种也许是最难的宽恕,它是对其他人的更进一步的宽恕。在我们的生活中,你可能被他人误会或是伤得很深,以至于你根本不可能原谅他们。但是,心怀怨恨和复仇的幻想只会使你陷入受伤害的情绪中。在这种情形下,你应该迫使自己看到更远的前景,这样做,你可以转移自己的愤怒和仇恨。只有宽恕他人,你才能摒弃过错,刷新记忆。当你最终从这种情形中解脱出来,你就会明白它是你成长过程中必不可缺的部分。

Choose Optimism 选择乐观

If you expected something to turn out bad, it probably will.Pessimism is seldom disappointed. But the same principle also works in reverse. If you expect good things to happen, they usually do! These seem to be a natural cause-and-affect relationship between optimism and success.

Optimism and pessimism are both powerful forces, and each of us must choose which we want to shape our outlook and our expectations.There is enough good and bad in everyone’s life—ample sorrow and happiness, sufficient joy and pain—to find a rational basis for either optimism or pessimism. We can choose to laugh or cry, bless or curse.It’s our decision: From which perspective do we want to view life? Will we look up in hope or down in despair?

I believe in the upward look. I choose to highlight the positive and slip right over the negative. I am an optimist by choice as much as by nature. Sure, I know that sorrow exists. I am in my 70s now, and I’ve lived through more than one crisis. But when all is said and done, I find that the good in life far outweighs the bad.

An optimistic attitude is not a luxury, it’s a necessity. The way you look at life will determine how you feel, how you perform, and how well you will get along with other people. Conversely, negative thoughts,attitudes, and expectations feed on themselves. They become a selffulfilling prophecy. Pessimism creates a dismal place where no one wants to live.

Years ago, I drove into a service station to get some gas. It was a beautiful day, and I was felling great. As I walked into the station to pay for the gas, the attendant said to me: “how do you feel?”That seemed like a odd question, but I felt fine and told him so. “You don’t look well.”He replied. This took me completely by surprise. A little less confidently, I told him that I had never felt better. Without hesitation, he continued to tell me how bad I looked and that my skin appeared yellow.

By the time I left the service station, I was feeling a little uneasy.About a block away, I pulled over to the side of road to look at my face in the mirror. How did I feel? Was I jaundiced? Was everything all right?By the time I got home, I was beginning to feel a little queasy. Did I have a bad liver? Had I picked up some rare disease?

The next time I went into the gas station, feeling fine again, I figured out what had happened. The place had recently been painted a bright, bilious yellow, and the light reflecting off the walls made everyone inside look as though they had hepatitis! I wondered how many other folks had reacted the way I did. I had let one short conversation with a total stranger change my attitude for entire day. He told me I looked sick, and before long, I was actually feeling sick. That single negative observation had a profound effect on the way I felt and acted.

The one thing more powerful than negative is a positive affirmation,a word of optimism and hope. One of the things I am most thankful for is the fact that I have grown up in a nation with a grand tradition of optimism. When a whole culture adopts an upward look, incredible things can be accomplished. When the world is seen as a hopeful, positive place, people are empowered to attempt and to achieve.

Optimism doesn’t need to be native. We can be an optimist and still recognize that problems exist and that some of them are not dealt with easily. But what a difference that optimism makes in the attitude of the problem solver! Optimism diverts our attention away from negativism and channels it into positive, constructive thinking. When you are an optimist, you are more concerned with problem-solving than with useless carping about issues, In fact, without optimism, issues as big and ongoing as poverty have no hope of solution. It takes a dreamer—someone with absolutely optimistic ideas, great persistence, and unlimited confidence to tackle a problem that is a big problem. It’s your choice.

积极乐观的肯定总是比消极悲观更给人以力量。

参考翻译(修立芬)

如果你总想着事情会向不好的方向发展,也许事情真的就会变坏。悲观的想法通常不会落空,但反过来这个规律也依然奏效。如果你想会有好的事情发生,好事通常会发生。乐观和成功是一对很自然的因果关系。

悲观和乐观都具有很强大的力量,然而我们每一个人必须选择我们所期望的。每个人的生活中都有很多好的或者不好的事情发生——大量的幸福或悲哀的事情,足够的欣喜和痛苦的情况——为你每次的悲观或乐观找一个理性的理由。我们可以选择欢笑或者哭泣,祝福或者咒骂。我们想从哪一方面来看待生活?是充满希望地乐观下去,还是灰心失望地悲观下去?这取决于我们自己。

我相信积极乐观的态度。我选择把积极乐观的想法强调、扩大,尽量减少或忽略消极的想法。在每一次选择面前我都会毫不犹豫地选择做个乐观主义者。当然我也知道痛苦依然是存在的。我已到了古稀之年,我的生命中面临着很多危机。但当把所有的事情做好了我发现生活中的美好要远远重要于生活中痛苦的事情。

一个积极乐观的态度并不是奢侈品,它是必需品。你看待生活的方式决定了你的感受、你的行为以及你与别人相处的状况。相反,悲观消极的想法、态度和期望也会带来相应的结果。每一种态度都是行为结果的预言。悲观消极营造了一个无人喜欢的阴暗环境。

几年前,我开车去一家服务站加油。那是美丽的一天,我心情很好。当我走到站里付油费的时候,服务员问我:“您感觉还好吗?”这是一个很奇怪的问题,但是我感觉很好也就这么跟他说了。“您脸色看起来不是很好。”他说道。这很让我吃惊。我告诉他我从没像现在一样感觉这么好,虽然回答起来不如刚才自信,但是他毫不犹豫地继续跟我说我的脸色看起来很差而且皮肤显得有些黄 。

当我离开这家服务站的时候感觉有点不自在。过了一会儿,我把车停在路边然后在车镜中看起了自己的脸。我感觉怎么样?难道我患黄疸病了吗?一切都还好吗?在车上我不断地想着这些问题。当我到家的时候我甚至开始有点想呕吐了。是我的肝出问题了吗?还是我患上了其他罕见的疾病?

下次我又去了那家加油站,依然感觉很好。这次我终于知道到底是怎么回事儿了 。因为这个地方刚刚刷过油漆,刷的是亮亮的胆汁黄漆,墙上的颜色通过灯光照到人脸上,所以每个在屋里的人都像是得了肝炎。我在想多少其他的顾客也跟我一样——听了别人说自己脸色不好然后真的就感觉身体不适。我竟然让一个完全陌生的人的一小段话影响了我一整天的心情。他告诉我我看起来好像是病了,然后很长的一段时间我都感觉自己真的病了。那个单独的消极的言论影响了我的感觉和我的行为。

比消极悲观更有力的只有对积极乐观的肯定。我感到幸运的是我生活在一个把积极乐观态度作为优良传统的国家。当整个文化都适应了积极向上的心态,那么多么令人难以置信的任务都可以完成。当这个世界被看做是充满希望的积极的地方,那么人们就被赋予了力量去努力拼搏。

乐观主义者并不是天真幼稚的。我们是乐观主义者,可我们依然能意识到问题的存在,也知道解决这些问题不是件容易的事情。但是这种积极乐观的想法会改变我们的态度,也会改变我们解决问题的方式。积极乐观的态度会把我们的思想从消极转向积极,并且为我们提供解决问题的有建设性的想法。如果你是乐观主义者,面对难题时你会想事情的解决办法而不是在作一些无用的抱怨。事实上没有乐观的态度问题也会继续下去,这种积极乐观的态度会使一个充满乐观主义的梦想家继续充满信心地坚持下去,直到找到解决问题的方法。悲观还是乐观,这是你的选择。

Seizing Every Minute in Life 把握生命里的每一分钟

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending. The earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren’t there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the “good” living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television, and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical,wouldn’t show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime. Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I’d have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said,“Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.” There would have been more “I love you...” more “I’m sorry...”

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute...look at it and really see it... live it... and never give it back.

Stop sweating the small stuff. Don’t worry about who doesn’t like you, who has more, or who’s doing what. Instead, let’s cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us. Let’s think about what God has blessed us with, and what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, as well as spiritually.

Life is too short to let it pass you by. We only have one shot at this and then it’s gone. I hope you all have a blessed day.

人生如此短暂,切勿虚度。生命只有一次,时不再来。

参考翻译(张敏)

我会去休息,当我生病的时候,因为我知道地球不会因为我今天不工作而停止转动。

我会在雕成玫瑰形状的粉红色蜡烛融化在容器中之前,将其点燃。

我会少说多听。

我会邀请我的朋友到家里吃饭,即使地毯被弄脏,沙发被弄旧。

我会在心仪的客厅吃爆米花,而不会因有人在壁炉生火会产生污染过度担忧。

我会抽出时间倾听爷爷闲聊他年轻时的故事。

我不会在夏天坚持摇上车窗,就因为我的头发刚梳理过,而且喷了发胶。

我会陪我的孩子们一起坐在草地上,而不会去顾虑草丛里有多少细菌。

我会在看电视的时候哭得少一点,笑得少一点,看人生的时候哭得多一点,笑得多一点。

我不会仅仅因为某样东西实用、耐脏、耐磨就买它。我不会期盼十月怀胎的时光一闪而过,我会珍惜每一刻,去感觉这个我体内孕育着的奇迹,因为这可能是我此生辅助上帝创造奇迹的唯一机会。

当我的孩子突然想要亲吻我时,我决不会说:“等一下。先去洗手,准备吃饭。”而是会说更多的“我爱你”、“对不起”。

但是总的来说,如果生命可以重新开始,我会抓住每一分钟珍视生活、关注生活、品味生活,绝对不让它虚度。

我不会为小事烦恼。不会担心谁不喜欢我、谁拥有的多,或者谁此刻正在做什么。而是珍惜和那些真正爱我的人之间的感情。我会多想想上帝的恩赐,以及每天做了哪些有利于我们的思想、身体、情感以及精神的事。

人生如此短暂,切勿虚度。生命只有一次,时不再来。祝愿大家幸福快乐。

Opportunity 机遇

The air we breathe is so freely available that we take it for granted.Yet without it we could not survive more than a few minutes. For the most part, the same air is available to everyone, and everyone needs it. Some people use the air to sustain them while they sit around and feel sorry for themselves. Others breathe in the air and use the energy it provides to make a magnificent life for themselves.

Opportunity is the same way. It is everywhere. Opportunity is so freely available that we take it for granted. Yet opportunity alone is not enough to create success. Opportunity must be seized and acted upon in order to have value. So many people are so anxious to “get in” on a“ground floor opportunity”, as if the opportunity will do all the work.That’s impossible.

Just as you need air to breathe, you need opportunity to succeed. It takes more than just breathing in the fresh air of opportunity, however.You must make use of that opportunity. That’s not up to the opportunity.That’s up to you. It doesn’t matter what “floor” the opportunity is on.What matters is what you do with it.

机遇无处不在,能否成功取决于你怎样把握它。

参考翻译(高昆)

我们自由自在地呼吸着无处不在的空气,这看起来是件很平常的事。然而,如果没有空气,我们只能存活几分钟。正常来说,空气是人人必需的,也是人人都可以获得的。只不过有的人呼吸只是为了自怨自艾地虚度光阴,有些人则是利用它所提供的能源为自己创造一个绚丽的人生。

机会也是如此,它无处不在,正因为这样,人们常常忽略它。但是,机会本身并不能带来成功。只有抓住机会,采取行动,才能创造成功。很多人都渴望得到机会,他们认为只要有机会就什么都有了。但那是不可能的。

就像人们有空气才能呼吸一样,有机会才能成功。但是,机会远远不是呼吸新鲜空气那么简单,你必须很好地利用它。成功并不取决于机会本身,而是取决于你。你拥有怎样的机会并不重要,重要的是,你怎样把握手中的机会。

I Will Persist Until I Succeed 坚持就是胜利

In the Orient young bulls are tested for the fight arena in a certain manner. Each is brought to the ring and allowed to attack a picador who pricks them with a lance. The bravery of each bull is then rated with care according to the number of times he demonstrates his willingness to charge in spite of the sting of the blade. Henceforth will I recognize that each day I am tested by life in like manner? If I persist, if I continue to try, if I continue to charge forward, I will succeed.

I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughter house of failure is not my destiny.

The prizes of life are at the end of each journey, not near the beginning; and it is not given to me to know how many steps are necessary in order to reach my goal. Failure I may still encounter at the thousandth step, yet success hides behind the next bend in the road.Never will I know how close it lies unless I turn the corner. Always will I take another step. If that is of no avail I will take another, and yet another.In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult.

Henceforth, I will consider each day’s effort as but one blow of my blade against a mighty oak. The first blow may cause not a tremor in the wood, nor the second, nor the third. Each blow, of itself, may be trifling, and seem of no consequence. Yet from childish swipes the oak will eventually tumble. So it will be with my efforts of today. I will be likened to the rain drop which washes away the mountain; the ant who devours a tiger; the star which brightens the earth; the slave who builds a pyramid. I will build my castle one brick at a time for I know that small attempts, repeated, will complete any undertaking.

I will never consider defeat and I will remove from my vocabulary such words and phrases as quit, cannot, unable, impossible, out of the question, improbable, failure, unworkable, hopeless, and retreat; for they are the words of fools. I will avoid despair but if this disease of the mind should infect me then I will work on in despair. I will toil and I will endure. I will ignore the obstacles at my feet and keep mine eyes on the goals above my head, for I know that where dry desert ends, green grass grows.

I will remember the ancient law of averages and I will bend it to my good. I will persist with knowledge that each failure will increase my chance for success at the next attempt. Each nay I hear will bring me closer to the sound of yea. Each frown I meet only prepares me for the smile to come. Each misfortune I encounter will carry in it the seed of tomorrow’s good luck. I must have the night to appreciate the day. I must fail often to succeed only once.

I will try, and try, and try again. Each obstacle I will consider as a mere detour to my goal and a challenge to my profession. I will persist and develop my skills as the mariner develops his, by learning to ride out the wrath of each storm.

I will not allow yesterday’s success to lull me into today’s complacency, for this is the great foundation of failure. I will forget the happenings of the day that is gone, whether they were good or bad, and greet the new sun with confidence that this will be the best day of my life.So long as there is breath in me, that long will I persist. For now I know one of the greatest principles of success: if I persist long enough I will win.

I will persist. I will win.

再长的路,一步步也能走完;再短的路,不迈开双脚也无法到达。

参考翻译(李定纹)

小公牛在奥瑞特竞技场上通过特殊方式进行搏斗考验。每头小公牛都被带到圈内,并任由它们被拿着长矛的斗牛士攻击。然后,每头小公牛的勇猛度将根据它们所表现出的斗志慎重地进行评定,而非根据被刺的次数。当我得知此事后,我意识到每天我都会以类似的方式接受生活的考验。如果我努力坚持、继续尝试、不顾一切向前冲的话,我就会成功。

我来到这个世界上并非败笔,在我的血管里也并没有失败的必然因素。我不是一只等待牧羊人宰杀的羊。我是一只狮子,我拒绝像羊一样说话、走路、睡觉。我不愿听到哭泣、抱怨,因为它们这些“疾病”是会传染的。让它们与羊群为伍吧,失败的屠宰场绝非我的命运。

生命的恩赐都在每段旅途的结尾,而不是出现在起始的地方。我并不知道需要迈出多少步才能实现我的目标,也许在走到第一千步时,我依然会遇到失败,然而成功正躲在这条路的下一个拐角处。如果我不试着去拐角处转弯,我就永远不会知道成功离我有多近。所以我一定会一路坚持走下去。如果多走一步没有用,我会再走另一步,再另一步。事实上,一次走一步并不是件难事。

今后,我每天都要加倍努力。就像是要砍断一棵参天大树,砍第一斧绝对不会让它颤动,甚至第二斧、第三斧都不会。每一斧,它的力量或许是微不足道的,也看不到什么效果。但是,累积起来,大树终会被砍断。这也是我每天付出努力所希望得到的结果。我会把这种努力看做洗刷高山的雨滴、吞噬老虎的蚂蚁、照亮地球的星星、修建金字塔的奴隶。我要一块砖一块砖地堆积,建造属于自己的城堡,因为我知道,只要我不懈努力,最终一定可以达成任何目标。

我不会承认失败。我要把诸如“放弃”、“没有办法”、“没有可能”、“不可能”、“毫无可能”、“不会发生的”、“失败”、“没有用的”、“绝望”和“撤退”这样的词汇从我的词典里去掉。因为这些都是愚蠢之人才会用到的词汇。我会尽量避免绝望,但如果这种心理疾病影响到我,我也会在绝望中继续努力。我会苦干、会忍耐。我会忽略脚下的障碍,把眼光放在前方的目的地,因为我知道戈壁的尽头就是绿洲。

我会谨记远古的概率法则,并用它来激励自己。我相信每次失败都会为我下一次的尝试增加成功的概率。我得到的每一次否决都会拉近我跟赞许的距离。我的每次皱眉都是为了迎接下一个要到来的微笑。我遇到的每一个逆境都是在酝酿明天的好运。经过黑夜才能看到光明,所以我一定要不怕失败,这样才能够获得成功。

我会尝试、尝试、再尝试。每一次遇到障碍,我都会认为这仅仅是到达目的地之前的一段小插曲、对信仰的一次小挑战。我会坚持,就像水手们那样锻炼自己,承受住每一次暴风雨的咆哮,让自己变得更强。

我不因昨日的成功而满足,因为这是失败的先兆。我会忘记过去发生的所有事情,不管是好事还是坏事,并带着今天将是我人生中最美好的一天的信心,去迎接每个新的一天。只要我还活着,我就会坚持到我人生的最后一口气。我现在才真正明白关于成功最伟大的一条定律:坚持就是胜利。

我要坚持。我要胜利。

I Believe 我相信

For my part, in the 25 years since my Harvard graduation, I have come to believe in hope over despair, striving over resignation, faith over cynicism.

I believe in the power of knowledge to make the world a better place. Cynics may say: Human beings have never learned anything from history. All that is truly useful about knowledge is that it can provide you with advantages over the pack. But the cynics are wrong: we have the capacity to learn from our mistakes and transcend our past. Indeed, in this very place we have been taught that truth —Veritas—can set us free.

I believe in finding fulfillment in family, for the family is the true center of a meaningful life. Cynics may say: All families are confining and ultimately dysfunctional. The very idea of family is outdated and unworkable. But the cynics are wrong: it is in our families that we learn to love.

I believe in working to achieve social justice and freedom for all.Cynics may scorn this notion as naive, claiming that all our efforts for equal opportunity, for justice, for freedom have created only a wasteland of failed hopes. But the cynics are wrong: freedom is our destiny; justice is our guide; we shall overcome.

I believe in protecting the Earth’s environment against an unprecedented onslaught. Cynics may laugh out loud and say there is no utility in a stand of thousand year old trees, a fresh breeze, or a mountain stream. But the cynics are wrong: we are part of God’s earth not separate from it.

I believe in you, all of you here, individually and as a group. The cynics say you are motivated principally by greed and that ultimately you will care for nothing other than yourselves. But the cynics are wrong. You are care about each other, you cherish freedom, you treasure justice, you seek truth.

In the end we face a fundamental choice, cynicism or faith, each equally capable of taking root in our souls and shaping our lives as self fulfilling prophecies. I believe we must open our hearts to each other and build on all the vast and creative possibilities. This is a task for a confident people, which is what we have been throughout our history and what we still are in our deepest character.

I believe in our future.

信任是可以交换的,我用对你的信任换取你对我的信任,同样的,我用对未来的信任换取未来我的信任。

参考翻译(胡尊艳)

对我来说,从哈佛毕业后的25年里,我懂得了坚信希望而不陷入绝望,努力奋斗而不听天由命,坚定信念而不愤世嫉俗。

我相信知识的力量会使世界更美好。愤世嫉俗者可能会说:人类从未在历史中学到什么。知识的真正作用只是使人类优于其他物种。但他们错了,我们能够从错误中吸取教训,并超越过去。的确,在哈佛,我们知道了——真理能让我们自由。

我相信履行家庭义务是我们的职责,因为有意义的生活真正的核心是家。愤世嫉俗者可能说:所有的家庭都很狭隘且毫无价值。家庭观念已经过时,不切实际。但是他们错了,让我们学会爱的正是家庭。

我相信通过努力,可以实现社会公正和全民自由。愤世嫉俗者可能要嘲笑这种想法太幼稚,他们声称,努力追求机会均等、公平公正、自由自在,只会创造一个绝望的荒原。但是,他们错了,自由是我们的命运,公正是我们的向导,我们将所向无敌。

我相信,保护地球的环境,可以抵制前所未有的冲击。愤世嫉俗者可能嘲笑道:一片古树林,一阵清风,或者一条山涧,都毫无价值。但是,他们错了,人类无法独立生存,我们是世界的一部分。

我相信你,相信这里的每个人,也相信这个群体。愤世嫉俗者说:你们的内心受贪欲驱使,最终,你们只会在乎自己,而毫不顾及他物。但是,他们错了,你们彼此关心,珍爱自由,崇尚公正,追求真理。

最终,一个重要的抉择摆在我们面前:愤世嫉俗还是坚定信念。它们都能扎根在我们的心灵深处,像能自我实现的预言一样,它们会塑造我们的生活。我相信,我们必须相互敞开心扉,在无限可能的基础上,创造一切可能。这是一个自信民族的任务,也是贯串我们整个历史,至今仍深植在我们内心深处的品格。

我相信我们的未来!

Different Strokes of Our Duties 关于责任的几笔

Life teaches us to live. To live, you have to exist. To exist, you should have a passport to this living world. Thanks to your parents, who brought you into this world.

Parents have taken care of us and satisfied all our needs. They helped whenever we were hungry, afraid or ill. They were always there by you,whenever you needed them. You almost assumed that they will always be there for you and never thought of how your life would be without them.But as you grow up, age also catches up with your parents and they need your help and support.

Man is a child first, after which he attains his youth. After youth he again goes through the second phase of childhood, also called as old age.This is the phase where everyone needs a comfort of a sense of belonging and being taken care of. Wouldn’t we all expect the same sense of security when we grow old? Even our parents are expecting us to be their caretaker, as they grow old. But they never make that obvious to us. They do their further duty by taking care of their grandchildren, paying E-bills,giving the clothes for laundry etc.

Isn’t it unfair on our part that we aren’t giving them what they need the most? It is our prime duty to take the very best care of them. It’s our pay back time. Let’s give the same sense of emotional security, care and love to our parents in their old age.

Some of us mistreat our parents and consider them more of a liability than an asset. Some of us move away from them, though our conscience pricks us. We err in our duties for not being dutiful. This guilty feeling is further wrapped into a sense of regret, when we will be treated in the same way by our future generation. After all you only get what you deserve. Don’t you?

Let’s keep in mind that to be a manager, husband or father, we first have to be a son.

人生中有很多我们应尽的责任,不要逃避,学会承担。种瓜得瓜,种豆得豆,你对别人负责,别人也会对你负责。

参考翻译(高昆)

生活教会我们如何生存,生存必须以存在为前提。你需要凭借一张通行证来到这个生机勃勃的世界。要感谢你的父母,是他们引领你来到这里。

父母照顾我们,满足我们的一切要求。不管我们是饥饿、恐惧还是疾病,他们都会陪伴在我们身边,随时给予我们帮助。你总以为他们将永远陪在你左右,从未想过如果没有他们,你的生活会怎样。可是随着你渐渐长大,父母的年岁渐高,他们越来越需要你的帮助和支持。

人首先是个孩子,然后才是青年。青年时期后,又会经历童年的第二个阶段,也被称做老年。这个阶段的人都需要被抚慰和被关爱。在我们年老时,不也希望有同样的安全感吗?即使我们的父母在年老时很希望有我们照料,他们也不会明显地表露出来。他们会继续尽自己的责任去照看孙子们、支付网费、把衣服拿去洗等。

我们从未给予父母最需要的,这是否有失公平呢?是报答他们的时候了,我们应该把细心照料他们作为自己的首要责任。让年老的父母同样有安全感和关爱感吧!

有些人虐待父母,不是把父母当成财富而是债务。有些人搬离父母居住,宁愿受到良心的谴责。我们没能尽责,因此在职责上有所缺失。当下一代以同样的方式对待我们时,我们的负罪感会愈加强烈,且追悔莫及。毕竟种瓜得瓜,种豆得豆,不是吗?

让我们记住,无论做经理、丈夫还是父亲,首先我们要做个孝顺的儿子。

What Successful People Have in Common 成功人士的必备条件

Is there a “success personality”—some winning combination of traits that leads almost inevitably to achievement? If so, exactly what is that secret success formula, and can anyone cultivate it?

At the Gallup Organization we recently focused in depth on success,probing the attitudes and traits of 1 500 prominent people selected at random from Who’s Who in America. The main criterion for inclusion in Who’s Who is not wealth or social position, but current achievement in a given field. Our research pinpoints a number of traits that recur regularly among top achievers. Here are five of the most important:

Common sense. This is the most prevalent quality possessed by our respondents. Seventy-nine percent award themselves a top score in this category. And 61 percent say that common sense was very important in contributing to their success.

To most, common sense means the ability to render sound, practical judgments on everyday affairs. To do this, one has to sweep aside extraneous ideas and get right to the core of what matters. A Texas oil and gas magnate puts it this way: “The key ability for success is simplifying.In conducting meetings and dealing with industry regulators, reducing a complex problem to the simplest terms is highly important.”

Is common sense a trait a person is born with, or can you do something to increase it? The oil man’s answer is that common sense can definitely be developed. He attributes his to learning how to debate in school. Another way to increase your store of common sense is to observe it in others, learning from their and your own-mistakes.

Knowing one’s field. After common sense, specialized knowledge in one’s field is the second most common trait possessed by the respondents,with three-fourths giving themselves an A in this category.

Geologist Philip Oxley, former president of Tenneco Oil Exploration and Production Co. and now chairman of Tenneco Europe, attributes his success to having worked in the oil fields, by “sitting on wells and bird-dogging seismic crews,” he learned the tricks of the trade firsthand.“People, who are going to be good managers need to have a practical understanding of the crafts in their business.” he says. Today his expertise earns him a six-figure salary.

On-the-job experience convinced people the importance of specialized knowledge. He says that “understanding why my equipment performs the way it does” is part of his success formula. A noteworthy point: he obtained his specialized knowledge through self-education and not through formal schooling.

Self-reliance. Top achievers rely primarily on their own resources and abilities. Seventy-seven percent give themselves an A rating for this trait. Self-reliance is not how you feel or how good you are; rather, it’s whether you have the gumption to take definitive action to get things moving in your life. It includes plain old willpower and the ability to get goals.

Two-thirds of the respondents say they’ve had clear goals for their lives and careers. And half of those we interviewed give themselves an A in willpower. Among other capabilities, willpower encompasses the ability to be a self-starter and to persevere after a project has begun.

General intelligence. This is essential for outstanding achievement because it involves your natural ability to comprehend difficult concepts quickly and to analyze them clearly and incisively. At least that’s the way our respondents see it—43 percent said it was a very important ingredient of their success, and another 52 percent said it was fairly important.

Ability to get things done. Nearly three-fourths of our high achievers rank themselves “very efficient” in accomplish tasks. And they agree that at least three important qualities have helped them to do so:organizational ability, good work habits and diligence.

A physics professor summarizes his success formula this way,“Sheer hard, tenacious work, with the ability to pace oneself.” He admits working up to 100 hours a week.

Besides the five listed here, there are other factors that influence success: leadership, creativity, relationships with others, and, of course, luck. But common sense, knowing your field, self-reliance,intelligence and the ability to get things done stand out. If you cultivate these traits, chances are you’ll succeed. And you might even find yourself listed in Who’s Who someday.

每一个成功者都有一个开始,勇于开始,才能找到成功的路。

参考翻译(张敏)

是否存在一种“成功的性格”,能够导致成功成为必然结果的优秀特质组合?如果有,那么成功法则的秘诀是什么呢?是不是人人都可以培养?

在盖洛普组织,我们近期集中对成功特性进行了深入调查,调查在美国名人录中任意抽取1 500位著名人士的价值观和特质。进入美国名人录的主要标准不是财富的多少或者社会地位的高低,而是在一定领域里的成就。我们的研究说明了在成功人士之中存在着大量共同的特征。以下是五条最重要的:

常识。这是被调查者认为的最重要的特质。百分之七十九的人都在这一项中给自己打了一个最高分。并且有百分之六十一的人说掌握常识对促进他们的成功非常重要。更进一步说,常识意味着在处理日常事务中具有明智的行动方式和果断的判断能力。要做到这一点,必须扫除无关的杂念,掌握什么是问题的核心。一位得克萨斯州石油公司的工业大亨这样解释道:“成功的核心能力是使问题简单化。在主持会议以及处理事务中,把复杂的问题变成最简单形式是极其重要的。”具备常识的能力是一种与生俱来的特质还是后天做一些事培养而来的?这位石油大亨回答说常识当然是可以被培养的。他取决于在学校期间学习怎样辩论,另一方面,是通过观察别人来提高你的能力,从别人身上和自己的失败中学习。

熟悉自己的领域。常识之后,某个领域的专业知识是被调查者认同的第二重要的特质,四分之三的被调查者认为自己在这项上可以得A。地质学者菲利普·奥克斯利,是前任天纳克石油勘探和生产公司的总裁,现任天纳克欧洲分公司董事长。他把他的成功归因于一直从事于石油领域。通过“坐在油井上以及勘探挖掘”他学会了第一手交易的窍门。他说:“想要成为好的经理人就要对他生意的小细节有确切的了解。”现在他的薪金已经是六位数了。

工作经验向人们证实了专业知识的重要性。他说“理解我的机器设备为什么这样工作”是他成功法则的一部分。值得注意的一点是,他的专业知识不是通过正规的学校教育而是自学得来。

自信。成功者主要依靠自身的资源和能力。百分之七十七的人都在这一项为自己选择A。自信不是说你怎样认为或者自我感觉有多好,而是说你是否有勇气为生命的梦想采取果断的行动。它包括具有坚定的意志力和具有明确目标的能力。三分之二的被调查者说他们有清晰的人生目标和工作目标。有半数的被调查者都给自己的意志力选择了A。从另一方面说,计划实施后具有自主性和坚持不懈的能力。

智慧。这对取得成功来说是基本的素质,因为它包括你能快速理解困难、问题以及清晰敏锐分析它的内在素养。至少被调查者是这么看待的——百分之四十三的人说这是他们获得成功的重要因素,另外百分之五十二的人认为这一方面确实很重要。

执行力。接近四分之三的成功人士在这一项中给自己选择了“非常有效”。并且他们认为至少有三个重要的能力帮助他们能够做到这一点——组织能力,良好的工作习惯和勤奋。

一位物理学教授这样总结他的成功法则:全身心的努力,坚持不懈的工作,自己的能力。他认为每周至少工作100小时。除了这里列举的五点外,还有其他因素影响着成功:领导力、创造力、人际关系,当然还有运气。但是常识、熟悉专业领域、自信、智力水平和执行力尤为突出。如果你培养了这些特质,你就有机会取得成功。有一天你可能在美国名人录中看到自己的名字。

Part 2 Content Is a Kind of Wi sdom 知足是一种智慧

知足是一种智慧。当你紧握双手,里面什么也没有;当你打开双手,世界就在你手中。记住:放得下,才能走得远!

Listen to Your Inner Voice 倾听你的心声

Very much, since you were brought into this world. When you couldn’t open your mouth till the first two years on planet earth, inner voice is the one through which you interpreted and understood things.

Inner voice is the voice mouth of the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is always acting as a secondary reflector of thoughts and ideas in the body. It justifies and rationalizes what is right and what is wrong. When we go against what the inner voice says we get a guilty conscious and are bothered by it throughout our lives.

At times when we are feeling low or unforgettable moments when we are let down, we seem to need some kind of emotional or mental support.We usually speak to our closest pal or our dearest family member during times of distress to ease the burden. At such times we get over the initial drizzle of emotional anxiety and mental restlessness. Because of pepping up by our empathic listener. We suddenly feel rejuvenated because our inner voice alerts us get on with things and leave the things of the past on the memory books of our brain.

The inner voice is always right most of the times because it knows us better than others and probably even ourselves. It is the dare devil child of the intuition which we have been having since childhood. It’s good to go by intuitions most of the times because it’s the response provided due to the synchronism between mental and physical being.

Whenever you are trying your first cigarette, or whenever you are asked to take sides in an argument, you are always in a sense of dilemma.During these times your inner voice automatically gives its verdict, which when over written, might leave us unhappy in the future. It’s up to us to either ignore the morale booster inside us or go out to the world and search for spiritual guru’s and happiness, when all these things are very much present within us.

愚痴的人,一直想要别人了解他。有智慧的人,却努力地了解自己。

参考翻译(高昆)

从我们来到这个世界那一刻起,这种情况经常会有。两岁之前你不能开口说话,内心的声音是你感知理解东西的唯一方式。

内心的声音是我们脑海里潜意识的声音。这种下意识的想法通常作为第二次反射,以想法和主意的方式反应到身体上。它理性地判断什么是对的,什么是错的。当我们做了违背我们内心愿望的事情时,我们会感到内疚并且终生都会受它的困扰。

我们会有情绪低落的时候,或者令人沮丧的难忘时刻,这时我们似乎需要某种情感或者精神上的慰藉。苦恼的时候我们往往会向我们最亲密的朋友或最亲近的家人倾诉,以此来减轻我们的压力。我们富有同情心地聆听着的鼓励使我们从最初的情感困惑和精神疲惫中走了出来。我们突然间会感到精神重新振作了起来,因为我们的内心在警醒我们应该朝前看,把过去的事都统统抛在脑后。

心声总是正确的,因为它比别人更了解你,甚至比你自己。它是勇敢魔鬼的衍生,从我们儿时就一路伴随我们。跟着直觉走绝大多数时候是有益的,因为它是我们精神和体力协调后作出的回应。

不管什么时候你尝试吸第一口烟,抑或是被人让你支持某种论点时,你往往会陷入矛盾之中。这种时候你内心的声音往往会自动给出它的评判。当所有的这些都在我们左右时,是忽略我们内心道德欲望的膨胀还是走出这个世界寻找精神上的满足完全取决于我们自己。

Let Go 顺其自然

The experience of love is an inner state. When this is present,you are happy, alive, and free. You feel good about yourself and good about life. As you bring the experience of love into your life, life works effortlessly and great things happen.

The opposite of love is fear and upset. When this is present, you lose down inside. You lose your creativity and your ability to see clearly. You get tunnel vision and you interact in a way that almost always makes your situation worse.

Whether you live in a state of love or a state of upset depends, not on your circumstances, but on how you relate to your circumstances. A good way to see this is to look at upsets.

Upsets seem to be caused by what happens but they’re not. Upsets are caused by your fighting and resisting what happens. To see this in your life, select a recent upset. Now notice what would happen if somehow you were at peace with what happened. There would be no upset.

There would be no upset because upsets aren’t caused by what happened. Upsets are caused by fighting and resisting what happened. The moment you take away the fighting and resisting, the upset disappears.

To live the experience of love, and to create a life that works, you need to stop the fighting and resisting. You do this through a process called letting go.

Letting go is the inner action that releases the fear and upset. The moment you let go, everything seems to change. With the fear and upset gone, you see your situation very differently. You become creative and discover solutions that you could never have seen before.

To let go, you need to do the opposite of fighting and resisting. You need to let go of your demands and expectations for how life should be and make peace with the way life is.

Find what you are resisting. Then give it full permission to be there.If you have a fear of losing a relationship, be willing to be it. If you are resisting the way someone is, then give the person full permission to be that way.

Be willing for anything. Set yourself free inside. Then take whatever action you need to have your life be great.

Keep in mind that letting go is a state of mind and has nothing to do with your actions. Letting go is the process that removes the fear and upset so you can see what action you need to take.

In your heart, you can be willing to lose someone, but in your actions, do everything you can to make sure the person feels so loved that he or she would never want to leave.

To make letting go a little easier, there are several steps you can take. The first is trusting. Trust is that no matter what happens you will be okay. When you know that you will be okay, letting go becomes relatively easy.

Trusting is also telling the truth. You really will be okay no matter what happens. Life is only threatening when you resist. So stop resisting and trust. Trust is that no matter what happens you will be okay.

The second step in the process of letting go is to be willing to feel your hurt. Be willing to feel all the hurt and the feelings of being not okay that your circumstances reactivate. Be willing to feel the hurt of being worthless or not “good enough”.

The avoidance of this hurt is what makes you resist. Once you are willing to feel this hurt, the need to resist disappears. You can then let go.

For example, Robert had a fear of losing his wife Jan. To make sure she didn’t leave, he hung on to her. His hanging on then pushed her further and further away. Robert was afraid of losing Jan because if she left him, this would reactivate all his hurt of feeling not worth loving. To avoid this hurt he hung on.

Once he was willing to feel his hurt, the loss of Jan ceased to be a treat. He no longer needed to hang on and became willing for her to leave.The moment this happened he changed the way he related to her. Instead of needing Jan, he started treasuring her. Jan then felt so loved and able to be herself, she didn’t want to leave.

This is what happens in life. The more you are able to let go and flow with life, the more life takes care of itself. You may not always get what you want, but you can always be free inside. You can restore both your peace of mind and your effectiveness. You can create a life that works.

人生有舍才有得,有时候放手不代表失去,可能是永久地拥有。顺其自然,凡事莫强求。心中有爱,幸福自然会围绕在你身边。

参考翻译(李定纹)

爱的体验,其实是一种内心的状态。当它正在进行中时,你觉得幸福、充满活力而且自由。你会感觉自己处于最佳状态,生活美好。因为你把爱的体验带入了生活,生活进行得毫不费力,自然好事连连。

爱的反面是恐惧和烦恼。处在这种状态时,你会觉得内心惘然,失去了创造力和辨别力。视野变窄,对琐事不当的处理往往让情况变得更麻烦。

活在爱里还是活在烦恼中,不光取决于你周围的环境,更取决于你的应对方式。一个好方法就是直面你的烦恼。

烦恼似乎是由所发生的事件引起的,其实不然。烦恼是因为你拒绝接受所发生的事而产生的。不信就选一个近期令你烦恼的事情来假设一下。如果你对所发生的事保持平和的心态,你就会注意到,其实所谓的烦恼,又有什么可烦恼的呢?

有一些事情发生的本身并不会引起烦恼。烦恼是人们对所发生的事的抵触和对抗而产生的情绪。当你不再抵触和对抗,那烦恼也会随之消失。

活在爱的体验中,创造一个舒适的生活条件,你需要停止这种抵抗。要达到这个目的,你需要经过一个过程,这个过程就称为“顺其自然”。

顺其自然是一种心理行动,帮你消除你的恐惧和烦恼。在你放手的这一刻,一切都将改变。随着恐惧和烦恼的消失,你会进入一个完全不同的精神领域。你变得具有创造力,能够发现新的解决问题的方式,然后以此来应对、解决问题。

顺其自然,你需要去做的就是不要拒绝、放弃对抗。不要对生活存有过高的要求和期望,该是怎样就是怎样,保持平和的心态。

找到你在抗拒的东西,然后完全认可它的存在。如果你害怕失去某个人,那么就学着适应你们的关系;如果你在抗拒某人,那么就试着完全认可他现在的样子。

试着适应所有的事。从内心释放自己。然后采取一切能使你的生活变得更棒的行动。

谨记顺其自然是一种内心的状态,与你的行动无关。它是消除恐惧和沮丧的过程,使你看清你需要如何做来解决问题。

在你心里,你可以失去某人,但在行动上,一定要尽全力让对方去感受你的爱,因此不想离去。

为了让自己轻松地顺其自然,你可以采取几个步骤。第一步就是信任。信任就是不管发生什么,你都没有疑问。当你知道你不会有什么问题时,顺其自然就变得相对简单了。

信任也意味着要说实话。不管发生什么,你要确定自己不会有问题。当你在抗拒的时候,生活就只会成为一个威胁。因此,停止抗拒,学会去信任。

顺其自然的第二步就是欣然接受你的伤痛。去体会周围环境带给你的所有伤痛和失望,去体会毫无价值或“不够好”所带来的伤痛。

逃避这种伤痛就会造成你的抗拒心态。一旦你愿意去体会这种伤痛,这种心态就消失了。你就能释怀了。

比如,罗伯特有一种会失去他妻子简的恐惧。为了确保她不会离开,他紧抓着她不放。这种行为导致他与妻子渐行渐远。罗伯特害怕失去简,因为如果她离开了,他就会觉得自己不值得被爱。为了避免这份伤痛,他不愿放手。

一旦他愿意接受这份伤痛,失去简的感觉就不会总缠着他。他不再需要紧抓不放,而是能够接受她的离开。此时,他们之间的相处方式就会改变。他不再纠缠,而是开始珍惜她。简也体会到了自己是如此被爱着,而且这份爱毫无负担,就不再想离开了。

这就是发生在生活中的事。有时候坦然会让你的生活越来越好。你不可能总是得到你想要的,但你总是能保持内心的潇洒自如。你可以恢复内心的平和与自身的能力,就可以打造一个令你满意的生活。

Love Your Life 热爱生活

Henry David Thoreau 亨利·戴维·梭罗

However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names. It is not so bad as you are. It looks poorest when you are richest. The fault-finder will find faults in paradise. Love your life,poor as it is. You may perhaps have some pleasant, thrilling, glorious hours, even in a poor-house. The setting sun is reflected from the windows of the alms-house as brightly as from the rich man’s abode;the snow melts before its door as early in the spring. I do not see but a quiet mind may live as contentedly there, and have as cheering thoughts,as in a palace. The town’s poor seem to me often to live the most independent lives of any. Maybe they are simply great enough to receive without misgiving. Most think that they are above being supported by the town; but it often happens that they are not above supporting themselves by dishonest means, which should be more disreputable.Cultivate poverty like a garden herb, like sage. Do not trouble yourself much to get new things, whether clothes or friends. Turn the old, return to them. Things do not change; we change. Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts.

生活就是怀着感恩的心珍惜拥有的每一天。

参考翻译(段灵芝)

无论你的生活多么不如意,你要面对它,不要躲避它,更别用恶言咒骂它。它不像你那样坏。在你最富有的时候,它倒是看似最穷。爱找缺点的人就是到天堂里也能找到缺点。要爱你的生活,无论贫富。即使身在一个济贫院里,你也会有愉快、激动、光荣的时候。夕阳反射在济贫院的窗上像反射在富贵人家的窗上一样光亮,在那门前,积雪同在早春融化。我只看到,一个从容的人,在哪里都像在皇宫中一样,生活得心满意足而富有乐观的思想。城镇中的穷人,我看,倒往往过着最独立不羁的生活。也许因为他们很伟大,所以受之无愧。大多数人以为他们是超然的,不靠城镇来支援;可事实上往往却是他们也逃不开利用不正当的手段来对付生活,毋宁说是不体面的。像圣人一样视贫穷如园中之花去耕植它吧!不要让自己疲于寻求新的花样,无论是新的朋友或新的衣服。珍惜旧的,回归到已拥有的。万物不变,是我们在变。你的衣服可以卖掉,但要保留你的思想。

Do Things for Himself 做真正的自己

As a little boy, there was nothing I liked better than Sunday afternoons at my grandfather’s farm in western Pennsylvania.Surrounded by miles of winding stonewalls, the house and barn provided endless hours of fun for a city kid like me. I was used to neat as a pin parlors that seemed to whisper, “Not to be touched!”

I can still remember one afternoon when I was eight years old. Since my first visit to the farm, I’d wanted more than anything to be allowed to climb the stonewalls surrounding the property. My parents would never approve. The walls were old; some stones were missing, others loose and crumbing. Still, my yearning to scramble across those walls grew so strong that finally, one spring afternoon, I summoned all my courage and entered the living room, where the adults had gathered after Sunday dinner.

“I, uh, I want to climb the stonewalls,” I said hesitantly. Everyone looked up. “Can I climb the stone walls?” Instantly a chorus went up from the women in the room. “Heavens, no!” they cried in dismay,“You’ll hurt yourself!” I wasn’t too disappointed; the response was just as I’d expected. But before I could leave the room, I was stopped by my grandfather’s booming voice. “Now hold on just a minute,” I heard him say, “Let the boy climbs the stone walls. He has to learn to do things for himself.”

“Scoot,” he said to me with a wink, “and come and see me when you get back.” For the next two and a half hours I climbed those old walls and had the time of my life. Later I met with my grandfather to tell him about my adventure. I’ll never forget what he said. “Fred,” he said,grinning, “you made this day a special day just by being yourself. Always remember, there’s only one person in this whole world like you, and I like you exactly as you are.”

Many years have passed since then, and today I host the television program Mister Roger’s Neighborhood, seen by millions of children throughout America. There have been changes over the years, but one thing remains the same: my message to children at the end of almost every visit. “There’s only one person in this whole world like you,” the kids can count on hearing me say, “And people can like you exactly as you are.”

永远记住:整个世界,你独一无二,我喜欢你是怎样就怎样。

参考翻译(胡尊艳)

小时候,我最喜欢在宾夕法尼亚州西部爷爷的农场上度过每一个周日的下午。由绵延数英里的石头墙围着的房屋和谷仓,给我这个城市里生活的孩子带来了无尽的乐趣。我习惯了城市里整洁无比的客厅,它们似乎在说:“不许乱动!”

我仍记得八岁那年一天下午的情形。自从我第一次去农场,我就特别想得到允许去爬农场周围的石头墙。当然,那是我父母绝不会赞同的。这些石墙年代久了,有些石块没有了,有些石块松动而且快塌了。可是,爬那些石墙的渴望越来越强烈,终于,在一个春日的下午,我鼓起勇气,走进客厅,大人们周日吃完午饭后都聚在那里。“我,呃,我想爬那些石墙。”我犹豫着说。 每个人都抬头看着我。 “我能爬那些石墙吗?”随即屋里的女人们异口同声地说:“天哪,不行!”她们惊恐地叫着,“你会伤到自己的!”我并不太失望,因为这种反应是我预料中的。但是,当我要离开屋子时,我爷爷的洪亮嗓音使我停下了脚步。“等一下,”我听到他说,“让这孩子去爬墙吧。他得学着自己做事情。”“快去吧,”他对我眨眨眼说,“回来后去找我。” 在接下来的两个半小时里,我爬上了那些老旧的石墙,觉得快活极了。过后我去见了爷爷,向他讲述了我的冒险经历。我永远忘不了他说的话。“弗雷德,”他咧开嘴笑着说,“你使今天变得很特别,因为你表现了自己。永远记住:整个世界,你独一无二,我喜欢你是怎样就怎样。”

许多年过去了,如今,我主持电视节目“罗杰先生的邻居”,全美数百万的儿童收看该节目。多年来节目发生了许多变化,但是有一点始终没变,几乎在每次访谈节目结束时,我都传达给孩子们一个信息:“在这个世界上,你独一无二。”孩子们总会听到我说,“大家喜欢怎样就怎样。”

Ive Learned... 人生赠予我的启示

I’ve learned...that the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.

I’ve learned...that when you’re in love, it shows.

I’ve learned...that having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world.

I’ve learned...that being kind is more important than being right.

I’ve learned...that you should never say no to a gift from a child.

I’ve learned...that I can always pray for someone when I don’t have the strength to help him in some other way.

I’ve learned...that no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with.

I’ve learned...that sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.

I’ve learned...that money doesn’t buy class.

I’ve learned...that it’s those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular.

I’ve learned...that under everyone’s hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved.

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