淡定的人生不寂寞(txt+pdf+epub+mobi电子书下载)

作者：李昂然

出版社：新世界出版社

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序言PREFACE

谁都想抵达成功的巅峰，但不是谁都可以。

有的人还没去试着迈出第一步，就觉得自己失败了。他们胆怯，他们嫉妒，他们抱怨，他们愤怒，这样的人永远不会成功。我相信没有失败，只有教训!谁不曾遭遇挫折？谁不曾经历失败？谁能在跌倒的地方重新站起来，谁就是强者。走过了所有通向失败的路，只剩下一条路，那就是成功的路。

当然想要成功，就要先懂得满足。不是因成功才满足，而是因满足才获得成功。满足是一种智慧，与其为自己没有的、无法做到的事情去生气、懊恼，还不如抱着一颗平常心，为自己的理想打拼，为自己争口气!

对!理想。“人没有理想，和咸鱼有什么区别？”别停下追寻理想的脚步。现实和理想之间，不变的是跋涉。

打开人生的画卷，有的人轻描淡写，有的人挥毫泼墨，有的人信笔涂鸦，这一切由你决定。画笔在你手中，你的人生也掌握在你的手中……从今天开始，做最好的自己!让自己感动自己一回，让自己欣赏自己一次，让自己佩服自己一把!

Part 1 No Mistakes, Only Lessons 没有失败，只有教训

Defeat 失败

Defeat, my Defeat, my solitude and my aloofness; you are dearer to me than a thousand triumphs, and sweeter to my heart than all world glory.

Defeat, my Defeat, my self-knowledge and my defiance, through you I know that I am yet young and swift of foot, and not to be trapped by withering laurels. And in you I have found aloneness and the joy of being shunned and scorned.

Defeat, my Defeat, my shining sword and shield, in your eyes I have read: That to be enthroned is to be enslaved, and to be understood is to be levelled down, and to be grasped is but to reach one's fullness, and like a ripe fruit to fall and be consumed.

Defeat, my Defeat, my bold companion, you shall hear my songs and my cries and my silences, and none but you shall speak to me of the beating of wings, and urging of seas, and of mountains that burn in the night, and you alone shall climb my steep and rocky soul.

Defeat, my Defeat, my deathless courage, you and I shall laugh together with the storm, and together we shall dig graves for all that die in us, and we shall stand in the sun with a will, and we shall be dangerous.

失败可以让人不必再去冒险，因为失败的人几乎没有什么再可以失去的了……

参考翻译(高昆)

失败，我的失败，我的孤寂与冷漠；对我来说，你比一千次胜利更珍贵，而对我的心灵来说，你要比所有的荣耀都甜美。

失败，我的失败，我的自知与反抗，通过你，我知道我还步伐矫捷，宝刀未老，还没被干枯的月桂所捕获。和你独处，我领悟了孤独，品尝到了被遗弃和被嘲笑的欢乐。

失败，我的失败，我光芒四射的长剑与盾牌，从你眼中，我读出：登基为王就像钻入牢笼，被了解就像被拉下水，被抓牢就像熟透的水果掉落下来被人吃掉一样。

失败，我的失败，我勇敢的伙伴，你会听到我的高歌、低泣和沉默，也会跟我谈起羽翼翱翔、大海澎湃、山脉在黑夜里燃烧，以开启我那尘封已久的心灵。

失败，我的失败，我不灭的勇气，你我将在暴风雨中狂笑，我们也将为我们当中所有逝去的人掘墓；我们会坚定地站在太阳下，我们也会身处险境。

Learning From Failure 从失败中学习

Why are so many people so afraid of failure? Quite simply because no one tells us how to fail so that failure becomes an experience that will lead to growth. We forget that failure is part of the human condition and that every person has the fight to fail.

Most parents work hard at either preventing failure or protecting their children from the knowledge that they have failed. One way is to lower standards. A mother describes her child's hastily made table as “Perfect”!Even though it wobbles on uneven legs. Another way is to shift blame, If John fails science, his teacher is unfair or stupid.

The trouble with failure-prevention devices that they leave a child unequipped for life in the real world. The young need to learn that no one can be best at everything, no one can win all the time—and that it's possible to enjoy a game even when you don't win. A child who's not invited to a birthday party, who doesn't make the honor roll or the baseball team, feels terrible, of course. But parents should not offer a quick consolation prize or say, “It doesn't matter” because it does. The young should be allowed to experience disappointment—and be helped to master it.

Failure is never pleasurable. It hurts adults and children alike. But it can make a positive contribution to your life once you learn to use it.Step one is to ask “Why did I fail?” Resist the natural impulse to blame someone else. Ask yourself what you did wrong, how you can improve.If someone else can help, don't be shy about inquiring. Success, which encourages repetition of old behavior, is not nearly as good a teacher as failure. You can learn from a disastrous party how to give a good one, from an ill-chosen first house what to look for in a second. Even a failure that seems definitive can prompt fresh thinking, a change of direction. After 12 years of studying ballet a friend of mine auditioned for a professional company. She was turned down. “Would further training help?” she asked. The ballet master shook his head. “You will never be a dancer,” he said, “You haven't the body for it.”

In such cases, the way to use failure is to take stock courageously,asking “What have I left? What else can I do?” My friend put away her toe shoes and moved into dance therapy, a field where she's both competent and useful. Failure frees one to take risks because there's less to lose. Often there's a resurgence of energy—an awareness of new possibilities.

失败，帮你否定了一条错的路，那摆在你面前的、通往成功的选择就又少了一项，成功几率又大了一成，难道不值得感恩吗？

参考翻译(单窈敏)

为什么这么多人都害怕失败呢？原因很简单，从没有人告诉我们如何失败，以至于大家都认为失败是成长过程必须经历的。我们忘了，失败是人类生存条件的一部分，每个人都有与失败斗争的经历。

许多父母都努力工作，或许是为了避免失败，或许是为了不让自己的孩子知道他们曾经失败过。有一种办法是降低标准。一位母亲说自己孩子匆匆做成的桌子是“完美的”，哪怕这张桌子由于不均衡桌脚的支撑正摇摇欲坠。另一种办法是“嫁祸”，如果约翰考试没过，那他父母就会认为他的老师是不公平的或愚蠢的。

这些防止失败的策略所带来的麻烦事，他们没能使孩子在这个真实的世界里做好独立生活的准备。年轻人需要知道，没有谁能在各方面都做到最好，没有谁总能获胜——即使你没有获胜，你也可以享受这场比赛。一个没有受到生日宴会邀请，没有上光荣榜或进入棒球队的孩子，必然会感到很沮丧。父母不应该给他们一个快速安慰奖励，或者是在事实上并不是没关系的情况下说“这都没关系的”。应该允许年轻人经历失望，并且让他们在帮助下学会控制它。

失败不可能使人愉快。它会伤害到成年人，同样也会伤害到孩子。但是，一旦你学会运用它，它就能对你的生活有积极的贡献。第一步是问：“为什么我会失败？”不要受到本性冲动的影响去责备别人。问问自己到底做错了什么，如何才能改进。如果有人帮助你，就不要羞于请教。成功，会激发人们重复自己的行为，根本不会比失败更让人受益良多。你可以从一场糟糕的宴会上学会如何办一场成功的宴会。从第一次失败的选房经历中学会如何寻找第二个。明确的失败甚至能够使人涌现出新的想法，改变方向。我的一个朋友在学了12年芭蕾舞之后去了一家专业公司进行面试。她被拒绝了。“我还需要进一步接受培训吗？”她问。芭蕾舞教练摇了摇头。“你不可能成为一名舞蹈演员，”他说，“你不是块跳芭蕾的材料。”

在这样的情况下，利用失败的方法是勇敢地进行自我总结，问问：“我还剩下什么？我还可以做什么？”我的朋友收好了她的芭蕾舞鞋，然后转而从事舞蹈治疗，这是一个对她来说很在行也很实用的领域。失败可以让人不必再去冒险，因为失败的人几乎没有什么再可以失去的了。通常，失败还会让人的精力复苏，认知到一些新的可能性。

Perseverance 毅力

Napoleon declared, “Victory belongs to the most persevering.” Upon careful study we find perseverance depends upon three things—purpose,will, and enthusiasm. He who has a purpose is always concentrating his forces. By the will, the hope and the plan are prevented from evaporating into dreams. Enthusiasm keeps the interest up, and makes the obstacles seem small.

Life is in a sense a battle. The man who thinks to get on by mere smartness and by idling meets failure at last. Perseverance is the master impulse of the firmest souls, and holds the key to those treasure—houses of knowledge from which the world has drawn its wealth both of wisdom and of moral worth.

Great men never wait for opportunities, they make them. They seize upon what ever is at hand, work out their problem, and master the situation. The greatest thing a man can do in this world is to make the most possible out of the stuff that has been given to him. This is success and there is no other.

One of the important lessons of life is to learn how to get victory out of defeat. It takes courage and stamina, when mortified by humiliating disaster, to seek in the ruins the elements of future conquest. Yet this measures the difference between those who succeed and those who fail.We cannot measure a man by his failures. We must know what use he makes of them. The man who has not fought his way upward and does not bear the scar of desperate conflict does not know the highest meaning of success.

想过成功，想过失败，但从没想过放弃……

参考翻译(王伟明)

拿破仑曾经说过，“成功属于那些有毅力的人”。通过细致的研究，我们发现毅力取决于三方面——目标、意志和激情。一个有目标的人一定会集中他的所有精力去做一件事情；只有有了强烈的想要成功的意志，一个人的梦想和计划才不能破灭而得以实现；激情可使人的兴趣持续下去而不至于衰减，使人蔑视困难的存在。

在某种意义上讲，人生是场斗争。仅仅妄想通过小聪明和懒惰取得成功的人最终都会遭遇失败。毅力是那些意志最坚定的人前进的主要推动力；毅力是取得财富的钥匙。这些财富是知识的宝库，在这里人们既可以得到智慧的启迪又能得到道德价值的提升。

伟大的人从来不会坐着等待机会的到来，而是要创造机会。他们会抓住自身拥有的资源，解决问题，掌控形势。在世界上一个人能做的最伟大的事情就是用自身仅有的资源创造出最多的价值。这就是成功唯一的定义。

生活教给我们一堂重要的课就是怎样从失败中取得成功。受尽巨大灾难的凌辱却还在废墟中寻找未来，而此斗争必备的要素是勇气和耐力。这正是成功者和失败者的区别所在。我们不能用失败来评判一个人，我们必须知道他能从失败中学到什么。一个人，不求上进、没有承受过绝望的冲击和矛盾的痛苦，是不会理解成功的真正内涵的。

Problems And Opportunities 是困难？还是机遇？

We live in an unusual time with corporate downsizing, restructuring,and the increase in global competition. Some view these times as problematic; others see the incredible opportunities created by such change.

In the last decade there has been a huge growth in home-based and service-industry businesses. These businesses have been started by individuals with the courage to pursue their dreams. Yet, for every idea that is implemented, thousands of ideas never get beyond the conceptual stage—from the imagination to a plan of action.

What holds people back from pursuing their dreams and acting on their great ideas? I believe it's fear of failure. Someone once said.“there are a lot of ways to become a failure, but never taking a chance is the most successful way.”I've also heard it said that, “people don't plan to fail...they fail to plan.”

Companies these days must be willing and able to change constantly.Sometimes companies change course to survive, and sometimes they do so because an opportunity is too good to resist. I know of a small company that provided a messenger service several years ago. A sudden major increase in corporate use of fax machines nearly put this small company out of business. Fortunately, the owner of the company was astute enough to realize other global corporate trends happening at the same time. The owner shifted gears from offering a messenger service to providing an off site records storage service, and soon business was booming once again.

It all comes down to perspective. When there was a downturn in the economy, some people could say, “This is terrible! With the downturn in the economy, nobody will have a budget for my service.”Or others thought, “This is great! With the tightening of budgets and the loss of support staff, there's an even greater need for professionals to be effective,which is precisely what I'm here to help them do!”

积极的人在每一次忧患中都看到一个机会，而消极的人则在每个机会中都看到某种忧患……

参考翻译(胡尊艳)

我们生活在一个非比寻常的时代，企业进行精简和重组，全球竞争也在不断加剧。很多人认为这是个困难重重的时代，但是有些人却认为这样的时代会带来无限的、难以置信的商机。

在过去的十年中，家族企业和服务企业大量涌现。这些企业主要是由那些敢于追逐梦想的人士开创的。然而，所有得以实行的创意背后，都经历了反反复复的计划。

是什么阻碍了人们追求和实现梦想的道路呢？我认为是对失败的恐惧。有人曾经说过，“导致失败的原因有很多，而不敢冒险是最彻底的一个。”我也听说过这样一句话“没有人计划失败，而有人败在没有计划。”

当今的公司必须不断地、主动地进行变革。有时变革是出于生存的需要，有时是因为难以抗拒绝佳的机会的诱惑。我认识一个几年前提供信使服务的小公司，企业传真机的大量使用几乎使得这个小公司濒临破产，幸运的是，该公司的老板很精明，他敏锐的觉察到了当时出现的另外一些国际商业趋势，并将公司的业务从提供信使服务转为提供场外记录存储服务，很快企业便重新焕发出生机。

态度决定一切。当经济低迷时，有些人会抱怨，“太糟了，经济这么不景气，没有人会出钱雇佣我了。”而有些人则会认为，“太好了，随着预算的收紧和员工的精简，就会急需大量的专业人员，这正是我一展宏图的好机会啊!”

Get To Do 我要去做

Did you ever have something that someone said hit you like a ton of bricks?

That happened to me at 8:05 pm on Thursday, January 18, 2001. It is a day I will never forget.

I need to back track a little here, so you will understand where I am coming from. In September of 1997, I walked through the doors of Marian College as an adult student going to college for the first time, at44 years old. It has always been a dream of mine to go to college, but that didn't lessen the butterflies in my stomach, or my lack of confidence.Today I have completed 96 credits and I have 33 more to go. I've come a long way from that first night 52 months ago.

It was during one of my current marketing classes that my instructor, Pam Schlenvogt, told us about“Get To”, and I just can't get it off my mind.

She told us that we walk through life making choices. Some of them are good, and some of them not so good, but hopefully we learn something from all of them. She told us that night a little about attitude and how it affects us. She gave us a handout called “Life is an Attitude”and walked us through Accountability, Tenacity, Truth,Integrity, Trust, Understanding, Dedication, and Excellence. She also told us that we cannot choose what happens to us, but we can choose our attitudes toward each situation.

If we walk through life on the path we have chosen feeling as though we have to do this or we have to do that, eventually we might feel overwhelmed. She then told us about changing our attitude and looking at the opportunities presented to us each day. If we look at those opportunities or challenges with a“get to”instead of a “have to”we might enjoy the journey just a little bit more.

I decided to make a conscious effort over the next couple of days to exchange the words“have to” with“get to”in my conversations with friends, co-workers, and family, but most of all in my thoughts, and something amazing happened. I noticed all the things I“get to”do and started appreciating the opportunities and challenges on my path.

Just imagine:

I get to go to school to fulfill my dream.

I get to go to work when so many people can't.

I get to do the laundry, thankful for a washer and dryer.

I get to play with my kids who deserve more attention of mine.

I get to spend time with a friend, who needs my help.

I get to read a book. I still have my sight.

I get to remember the things that make me happy.

...

I give you a challenge. With every thought and conversation for the next day or two, change the words “I have to” with the words “I get to”and see if it makes a difference in your day.

态度决定一切，要你做不如你要做。既定目标，风雨兼程……

参考翻译(修立芬)

朋友们，有没有某个人的某一句话一直影响着你？

我有过。那是2001年1月18日,星期四的晚上八点零五分，我永远都忘不了那一刻。

这要从1997年说起，那年9月的我——一名44岁的成年学生走进了圣母玛利亚大学，是年龄最大的学生。尽管走进大学是我一直梦寐以求的，但是这个年纪还是令我很不安或者说令我有些不自信。然而今天我却完成了96个学分，超过了学校要求的33个学分。从52个月前入学的第一天到现在，我已经走过了一段很长的路。“我要去做。”这是在营销课上，帕姆老师告诉我们的，从那以后这句话便刻在了我的脑子里。

她说生活中我们会经历很多选择，有些选择我们做的很对，有些也许没那么理想。但是可以肯定的是我们能从所选择的事情里学到些什么。那天她给我们讲态度以及态度对我们的影响。她发了一份资料，一篇《生活是一种态度》的文章。她没有讲责任、韧性、真诚、正值、信任、理解、宽容、坚决、美德这些东西，只是说我们无法控制所要发生的事情，但是我们可以选择面对每种情况的态度。

在生活中我们好像都有这样的感觉：我不得不去做这件事，不得不去做那件事，最终我们会感觉很累。她说要改变这种态度，要把每天要做的事情当成是今天赠与你的机会。如果我们把这些事情看作是机会或挑战，那我们会想“我要去做”而不是“我不得不做”。这样我们才能更好的享受每一天。

我决定在接下来的几天里要有意识的努力做到“我要去做”而不是“我不得不做”。我要去和我的朋友、家人聊天，我要去实现我的每一个想法。接下来发生了令人吃惊的变化：所有“我要去做”的事情都变成了令人愉快的机遇和挑战。

试着想一下：

我要去学校实现我的梦想；

我要去做很多人做不了的工作；

我要去洗衣服，并对洗衣机和烘干机充满感激；

我要去陪我的孩子玩耍，他们需要更多的关怀；

我要去帮助一位处在困境中的朋友；

我要去读书，开阔我的眼界；

我要去记住那些令我愉快的事情。

给你一个建议：在接下来的一两天里，把每一件“我不得不做”的事情换成“我要去做”，看看你的生活是否会有所不同。

There Are No Mistakes, Only Lessons 没有错误，只有教训

Human growth is a process of experimentation, trial, and error,ultimately leading to wisdom. Each time you choose to trust yourself and take action, you can never quite be certain how the situation will turn out. Sometimes you are victorious, and sometimes you become disillusioned. The failed experiments, however, are no less valuable than the experiments that ultimately prove successful; in fact, you usually learn more from your perceived“failures”than you do from your perceived“success”.

If you have made what you perceive to be a mistake or failed to live up to your own expectations, you will most likely put up a barrier between your essence and the part of you that is the alleged wrong-doer. However,perceiving past actions as mistakes implies guilt and blame, and it is not possible to learn anything meaning while you are engaged in blaming.Therefore, forgiveness is required when you are harshly judging yourself.

Forgiveness is the act of erasing an emotional debt. There are four kinds of forgiveness.

The first is beginner forgiveness for yourself.

The second kind of forgiveness is beginner forgiveness for another.

The third kind of forgiveness is advanced forgiveness of yourself.This is for serious transgressions, the ones you carry with deep shame.When you do something that violates your own values and ethics, you create a chasm between your standards and your actual behaviour. In such a case, you need to work very hard at forgiving yourself for these deeds so that you call close this chasm and realign with the best part of yourself. This does not mean that you should rush to forgive yourself or not feel regret or remorse; but wallowing in these feelings for a protracted period of time is not healthy, and punishing yourself excessively will only creates a bigger gap between you and your ethics.

The last and perhaps most difficult one is the advanced forgiveness of another. At some time of our life, you may have been severely wronged or hurt by another person to such a degree that forgiveness seems impossible. However, harboring resentment and revenge fantasies only keeps you trapped in victimhood. Under such a circumstance, you should force yourself to see the bigger picture, by so doing, you will be able to shift the focus away from the anger and resentment. It is only through forgiveness that you can erase wrongdoing and clean the memory. When you can finally release the situation, you may come to see it as a necessary part of your growth.

从成功中你可以学到东西，但事实上，你通常可以从失败中学到更多……

参考译文(彭琪淋)

人的成长是一个不断体验，不断尝试，不断犯错，并最终通向智慧的过程。每次你自信满满，并付诸行动时，你从来都不确定结果会是怎样。有时候你会载誉而归，有时候你会大失所望。但是失败的经历和成功的经历一样具有可贵的价值。从成功中你可以学到东西，但事实上，你通常可以从失败中学到更多。

如果你发觉自己犯了错或是不能达到自己的预期目标，你往往会在真正自我和所谓的做错事的自我之间放置一道障碍。但是，把过去的行为当做犯错只会增加内疚和自责，而在自责中你是不可能学到任何有意义的教训的。因此，当你过分苛求自己的时候，你应该对自己拥有宽恕之心。

宽恕是指完全放下曾经的幽怨。宽恕有四种类型。

第一种是指对自己的低层次的宽恕。

第二种是指对他人过失的低层次的宽恕。

第三种是指对自己更进一步的宽恕。这涉及到你严重的过失，即那些使你深深自责的过失。当你的所作所为违背了自己的价值观和道德观的时候，你的准则和自己的实际行为之间往往会出现一道裂痕。在这种情形下，你要非常努力地原谅自己的这些过失，这样你才能修复裂痕，重新塑造最好的自我。这并不意味着你可以仓促地原谅自己或是不知悔恨；而是因为，长时间地沉浸在懊悔中不利于健康，而且过度惩罚自己只会使自己和自己的道德准则之间的代沟愈加扩大。

第四种也许也是最难的宽恕，它是指对其他人的更进一步的宽恕。在我们的生活中，你可能被他人误会或是伤得很深，以至于你根本不可能原谅他们。但是，心怀怨恨和复仇的幻想只会使你陷入受伤害的情绪中。在这种情形下，你应该迫使自己看到更远的前景，这样做，你可以转移自己的愤怒和仇恨。只有宽恕他人，你才能摒弃过错，刷新记忆。当你最终从这种情形中解脱出来，你就会把它看做是你成长过程中必不可缺的部分。

I Will Persist Until I Succeed 坚持就是胜利

In the Orient young bulls are tested for the fight arena in a certain manner. Each is brought to the ring and allowed to attack a picador who pricks them with a lance.

The bravery of each bull is then rated with care according to the number of times he demonstrates his willingness to charge in spite of the sting of the blade. Henceforth will I recognize that each day I am tested by life in like manner. If I persist, if I continue to try, if I continue to charge forward, I will succeed.

I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughter house of failure is not my destiny.

The prizes of life are at the end of each journey, not near the beginning; and it is not given to me to know how many steps are necessary in order to reach my goal. Failure I may still encounter at the thousandth step, yet success hides behind the next bend in the road. Never will I know how close it lies unless I turn the corner. Always will I take another step. If that is of no avail I will take another, and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not too difficult.

Henceforth, I will consider each day's effort as but one blow of my blade against a mighty oak. The first blow may cause not a tremor in the wood, nor the second, nor the third. Each blow, of itself, may be trifling,and seem of no consequence. Yet from childish swipes the oak will eventually tumble. So it will be with my efforts of today. I will be likened to the rain drop which washes away the mountain; the ant who devours a tiger; the star which brightens the earth; the slave who builds a pyramid.I will build my castle one brick at a time for I know that small attempts,repeated, will complete any undertaking.

I will never consider defeat and I will remove from my vocabulary such words and phrases as quit, cannot, unable, impossible, out of the question, improbable, failure, unworkable, hopeless, and retreat; for they are the words of fools. I will avoid despair but if this disease of the mind should infect me then I will work on in despair. I will toil and I will endure. I will ignore the obstacles at my feet and keep mine eyes on the goals above my head, for I know that where dry desert ends, green grass grows.

I will remember the ancient law of averages and I will bend it to my good. I will persist with knowledge that each failure will increase my chance for success at the next attempt. Each nay I hear will bring me closer to the sound of yea. Each frown I meet only prepares me for the smile to come. Each misfortune I encounter will carry in it the seed of tomorrow's good luck. I must have the night to appreciate the day. I must fail often to succeed only once.

I will try, and try, and try again. Each obstacle I will consider as a mere detour to my goal and a challenge to my profession. I will persist and develop my skills as the mariner develops his, by learning to ride out the wrath of each storm.

I will not allow yesterday's success to lull me into today's complacency, for this is the great foundation of failure. I will forget the happenings of the day that is gone, whether they were good or bad, and greet the new sun with confidence that this will be the best day of my life.So long as there is breath in me, that long will I persist. For now I know one of the greatest principles of success; if I persist long enough I will win.

I will persist. I will win.

再长的路，一步步也能走完，再短的路，不迈开双脚也无法到达……

参考翻译(李定纹)

小公牛在奥瑞特竞技场上，通过传统的特殊方式进行搏斗考验。每头小公牛都被带到圈内，并任由它们被拿着长矛的斗牛士攻击。然后，每头小公牛的勇猛度将根据它们所表现出的斗志慎重的进行评定，而非被刺的次数。当我得知此事后，我意识到每天我都会以类似的方式接受生活的考验。如果我努力坚持、继续尝试、不顾一切向前冲的话，我就会成功。

我来到这个世界上并非败笔，在我的血管里也并没有失败的必然因素。我不是一只等待牧羊人宰杀的羊。我是一只狮子，我拒绝像羊一样说话、走路、睡觉。我不愿听到哭泣抱怨，因为他们这些“疾病”是会传染的。让他们与羊群为伍吧，失败的屠宰场绝非我的命运。

生命的恩赐都在每段旅途的结尾，而不是出现在起始的地方；我并不知道需要迈出多少步才能实现我的目标。也许在走到第一千步时，我依然会遇到失败，然而成功就正躲在这条路的下一个拐角处。如果我不试着去拐角处转弯，我就永远不会知道成功离我有多近。所以我一定会一路坚持走下去。

今后，我每天都要加倍努力。就像是要砍断一棵参天大树，砍第一斧绝对不会让它颤动，甚至第二斧、第三斧都不会。每一斧，它的力量或许是微不足道的，也看不到什么效果。但是，累积起来，大树终会被砍断。这也是我每天付出努力所希望得到的结果。我会把这种努力看作洗刷高山的雨滴，吞噬老虎的蚂蚁，照亮地球的星星，修建金字塔的奴役。我要一块砖一块砖的堆积，建造属于自己的城堡，因为我知道，只要我不懈的努力，最终一定可以达成任何目标。

我不会承认失败。我要把诸如“放弃”、“没有办法”、“没有可能”、“不可能”、“毫无可能”、“不会发生的”、“失败”、“没有用的”、“绝望”和“撤退”这样的词汇从我的词典里去掉。因为这些都是愚蠢之人才会用到的词汇。我会尽量避免绝望，但如果这种心理疾病影响到我，我也会在绝望中继续努力。我会苦干、会忍耐。我会忽略脚下的障碍，把眼光放在前方的目的地，因为我知道戈壁的尽头就是绿洲。

我会谨记远古的概率法则，并用它来激励自己。我相信每次失败都会为我下一次的尝试增加成功的几率。我得到的每一次否决都会拉近我跟赞许的距离。我的每次皱眉都是为了迎接下一个要到来的微笑。我遇到的每一个逆境都是在酝酿明天的好运。经过黑夜才能看到光明，所以我一定要不怕失败才能够获得成功。

我会尝试，尝试，再尝试。每一次遇到障碍，我都会认为这仅仅是到达目的地之前的一段小插曲，对信仰的一次小挑战。我会坚持，就像水手们那样锻炼自己，承受住每一次暴风雨的咆哮，让自己变得更强。

我不因昨日的成功而满足，因为这是失败的先兆。我会忘记过去发生的所有事情，不管是好事还是坏事，并带着今天将是我人生中最美好的一天的信心，去迎接每个新的一天。只要我还活着，我就会坚持到我人生的最后一口气。我现在才真正明白关于成功最伟大的一条定律：坚持就是胜利。

我要坚持。我要胜利。

Seizing Every Minute In Life 把握生命里的每一分钟

I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending. The earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.

I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage.

I would have talked less and listened more.

I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded.

I would have eaten the popcorn in the “good” living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.

I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth.

I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.

I would have sat on the lawn with my children and not worried about grass stains.

I would have cried and laughed less while watching television—and more while watching life.

I would never have bought anything just because it was practical,wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime. Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.

When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said,“Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.” There would have been more “I love you...” more “I'm sorry...”

But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute...look at it and really see it... live it... and never give it back.

Stop sweating the small stuff. Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what. Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us. Let's think about what God has blessed us with, and what we are doing each day to promote ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, as well as spiritually.

Life is too short to let it pass you by. We only have one shot at this and then it's gone. I hope you all have a blessed day.

人生如此短暂，切勿虚度。生命只有一次，时不再来……

参考翻译(张敏)

当我生病的时候，我会去休息，因为我知道地球不会因为我今天不工作而停止转动。

我会在雕成玫瑰形状的粉红色蜡烛融化在容器之前，将其点燃。

我会少说多听。

我会邀请我的朋友到家里吃饭，即使地毯被弄脏，沙发被弄旧。

我会在“心仪”的客厅吃爆米花，而不会因有人在壁炉生火会产生污染过度担忧。

我会抽出时间倾听爷爷闲聊他年轻时的故事。

我不会在夏天坚持摇上车窗，就因为我的头发刚梳理过，而且喷了发胶。

我会陪我的孩子们一起坐在草地上，而不会去顾虑草丛里有多少细菌。

我会在看电视的时候哭的少一点，笑的少一点，看人生的时候哭得多一点，笑的多一点。

我不会仅仅因为某样东西实用、耐脏、耐磨就买它。我不会期盼十月怀胎的时光一闪而过，我会珍惜每一时刻，去感觉这个我体内孕育着的奇迹，因为这可能是我此生辅助上帝创造奇迹的唯一机会。

当我的孩子突然想要亲吻我，我绝不会说“等一下。先去洗手，准备吃饭。”而是会说更多的“我爱你……”、“对不起……”。

但是总的来说，如果生命可以重新开始，我会抓住每一分钟……珍视生活、关注生活、品味生活……决不让它虚度。

我不会为小事烦恼，不会担心谁不喜欢我、谁拥有的多或者谁此刻正在做什么，而是珍惜和那些真正爱我们的人之间的感情。我会多想想上帝的恩赐，以及每天做了哪些有利于我们的思想、身体、情感以及精神的事。

人生如此短暂，切勿虚度。生命只有一次，时不再来。祝愿大家幸福快乐。

Where There Is Life, There Is Hope 生命不息，希望常在

When I was in the Ohio, a girl named Helen in my class had a terrible accident. As she was runing to the bus in order not to miss it, she slipped on some ice and fell under the rear wheels of the bus. She survived the accident, but was paralyzed from the waist down. I went to see her, in my13-year-old mind thinking she wouldn't live normally from then on.

Over the years, I moved and didn't think about Helen after that.Three years ago, in Florida, my oldest son was hit by a car while riding his bike, causing a terrible brain injury. While I was looking after my son, a lady who said she was the hospital's social worker called. It was a particularly trying day. I burst into tears for no reason and hung up.

A short time later, a beautiful woman, in a wheelchair, rolled into my son's room with a box of tissues. After 16 years, I still recognized Helen. She smiled, handed me the tissues and hugged me. I told her who I was, and after we both got　through the shock of that, she began to tell me about her life since we last saw each other. She had married, had children and gotten her degree so that she could smooth the path for those less fortunate than her. She told me that if there was anything she could give me, it would be hope.

Looking at this wonderful, giving person, I felt small. But I also felt the first hope I had felt since learning that my son was hurt. From this person that I thought would have no quality of life, I learned that where there is life, there is hope. My son miraculouly recovered and we　moved back north, but I owe Helen a debt that I can never repay.

失败不意味着永远不会成功，失去也不意味着永远不会拥有。生命不息，希望常在……

参考翻译(修立芬)

当我在俄亥俄州的时候，一个名叫海伦的同事发生了一场严重的车祸。当时她怕错过公交车，正急忙的跑，却因为地上有冰雪而滑倒，倒在了公交车的后车轮下。她活了下来，然而腰部以下全部瘫痪。我去医院看了她，在我13岁的大脑里我想从此以后她不会再有正常的生活了。

很多年过去了，我搬了家，也没再去想关于海伦的事情。三年前我的大儿子在骑自行车的时候被车撞到了，造成了严重的脑损伤。当我在医院照顾儿子的时候，一个妇女打来电话说她是医院的护工。那真是很难过的一天，我忍不住的哭了起来，很快就挂了电话。

过了一会儿，一位很漂亮的女人，坐着轮椅摇进了儿子的房间。她拿着一盒面巾纸。竟然是海伦，16年后我仍能认出她来。她微笑着，把面巾纸递给了我并给了我一个拥抱。我告诉了她我是谁，震惊过后，她开始给我讲我们最后一次见面后她的生活。她结婚了有了孩子也获得了证书，所以她给这些不幸的人树立了榜样。她告诉我如果此时她能给我些什么，那就是希望。

看着这位令人惊奇的赠与者我觉得自己很渺小。但是同时我也在得知儿子受伤后第一次感觉到希望。从这个我曾经以为不会有生活质量的人身上我懂得了：生命在，希望就在。后来我的儿子奇迹般的恢复了，我们夜搬回了北风，但是我还欠海伦一份永远也还不上的人情

16 Steps To Self-discovery And Self-empowerment 自我发现与强大的16步

1. We affirm that we have the power to take charge of our own lives and to stop being dependent on substances or other people for our selfesteem or our security.

2. We come to believe that our emerging self will reveal to us the healing wisdom that lives within us all when we are ready, willing and able to open ourselves up to the healing process.

3. We make a decision to become our authentic selves and trust in the healing power of the truth.

4. We examine our beliefs, our addictions, and our dependent behaviour in the context of living in a hierarchical, patriarchal culture.

5. We share with another person and our emerging self all those things inside of us for which we feel shame and guilt.

6. We affirm and enjoy our strengths, our talents, and our creativity,striving not to hide these qualities to protect others' egos.

7. We become willing to let go of our shame, our guilt, and any behaviour that keeps us from loving ourselves and others.

8. We make a list of people we have harmed and people who have harmed us, and take steps to clear out negative energy by making amends and sharing our grievances, both in a respectful way.

9. We express love and gratitude to others, and increasingly appreciate the wonder of life and the blessings we do have.

10. We continue to trust our reality and daily affirm that we see what we see, we know what we know, and we feel what we feel.

11. We promptly acknowledge our mistakes and make amends when appropriate, but we do not say we are sorry for things we have not done and we do not cover up, analyze, or take responsibility for the shortcomings of others.

12. We seek out situations, jobs, and people that affirm our intelligence, perceptions, and self-worth and avoid situations or people who are hurtful, harmful, or demeaning to us.

13. We take steps to heal our physical bodies, organise our lives,reduce our stress, and have fun.

14. We seek to find our inward calling, and develop the will and wisdom to follow it.

15. We accept the ups and downs of life as natural events that can be used as lessons for our growth.

16. We grow in awareness that we are interrelated with all living things, and we contribute to restoring peace and balance on the planet.

其实你本来就很好。找到自己的长处，让它尽情发挥，你自然会强大起来……

参考翻译(王伟明)

1.我们有能力掌控自己的生活，不再依赖物质，不再依赖他人来维护自己的自尊或安全。

2.我们相信，当我们准备好欣然地敞开心扉，接受愈合的过程时，一个全新的自我会赋予我们当时所需的一切智慧。

3.我们决心展现真我，完全相信真理的治愈力量。

4.我们要在这个等级分明的文化背景中不断地审视自己的信念、癖好以及依赖性。

5.我们要将羞愧与内疚的事与他人和全新的自我一起分享。

6.我们要对自己的优点、天赋和创造力予以肯定和赞赏，不要为了顾及他人的颜面而淡化这些优点。

7.让愧疚、自责顺其自然发生吧，用实际行动大胆地去爱自己和周围的人。

8.列一张清单，写下我们伤害过的和伤害过我们的人，并通过道歉和诉苦来减轻苦痛或清除负面影响。当然，我们要用礼貌的方式这么做。

9.向别人表达爱意与感激，也要不断地赞赏生命的神奇，以及我们所拥有的幸福。

10.总是相信现实，对我们每天看到和感知到的一切予以肯定。

11.要及时承认过错，并适时予以更正，但不要为我们未做的事感到遗憾，也不掩饰和分析他人的缺点。

12.找寻能对我们的智力、观察力和自我价值予以肯定的环境、工作和人群，远离那些无益的环境和对我们不利的人群。

13.采取措施恢复体能，使生活井然有序，减少压力，使生活充满欢乐。

14.寻找心灵的召唤，培养毅力并启迪智慧以应之。

15.正视生活中的坎坷，把它当作成长中可以吸取的教训。

16.我们逐渐意识到，我们与万物有着千丝万缕的联系。因此，我们应为恢复人类的和平与生态平衡做出应有的贡献。

Do You Accept Challenges? 你愿意接受挑战么？

Should we easily wail about the embarrassment and the unfairness of life? Or should we accept obstacles as challenges? With a choice of stance we can allow ourselves to be oppressed victims. When anything happens to us, we can take it as a sign that we should not expect anything good out of our lives. These are times when we need to determine whether it is wisdom or fear that motivates us in our choices.

If we view our lives as a juggling act or a sort of sporting contest,we learn to go along with the limitations and obstacles that are dealt us.We then find ways to make it through the event in good shape and with energy. Different talents and strengths will be called upon to get through the obstacles. Our faith, humor, and hope may be tested, but they are what keeps us going as we try to overcome the various obstacles.

Discrimination and prejudice are challenges. We force ourselves to work twice as hard as others; however, the rewards from our work are ours to enjoy. The important thing is to be working at something we find meaningful and worthwhile.

To succeed, you must accept challenges. There will always be barriers, cultural differences, and lack of understanding around us, but it is beneficial for us to stay together, be sensitive to each other needs, and to help each other. Maintaining cultural diversity and integrity is possible as a healthy community builds on teamwork, praise, pride and enthusiasm.Once, we are dedicated to improve critical skills such as knowledge sharing, collaboration, flexibility and risk taking, we will improve our future.

Together, we can make our world a better place in which to live by changing the way we and the rest of the population view it—positively.Let's make this challenge a reality.

想是问题，做是答案；输在犹豫，赢在行动……有时前进也是一种挑战……

参考翻译(许晓芬)

面对生活中的窘迫与不公，我们应该轻易感到悲痛吗？还是应该把这些障碍看做生活对我们的挑战呢？当厄运降临在我们身上时，我们可以选择站在可怜的受害者的立场上，并由此认为我们不应该对美好生活有任何的向往。在这些时侯，我们就需要确定自己所做出的选择是受智慧的指引还是受到恐惧的驱使。

假如我们把生活看做是杂技表演或是一种体育竞技，尝试着改正我们所存在的不足、清除我们所面临的障碍，我们就能找到解决问题的办法，以最优美的姿态精神饱满地完成表演。清除障碍需要我们发挥不同的才能与精力。在我们努力克服障碍的过程中，我们的信仰、心境以及我们的信心都可能受到考验，但也正是这些东西伴随着我们成长。

歧视与偏见是挑战。我们强迫自己在工作中付出别人双倍的努力，然而，我们的工作所得是我们独自享用的。此外很重要的一件事是，保证我们所从事的事情是有意义和价值的。

要获得成功，你就必须面对挑战。我们身边总会存在各种障碍，如文化的差异以及缺乏了解，但我们能够聚在一起，感受彼此的需求并相互帮助，却对我们有很大的益处。只有处于一个建立在合作，荣耀，自豪，和热情之上的健康社会之中，我们才可能保持文化的多样性和完整性。一旦我们致力于提高知识共享，团结协作，灵活应变和冒险精神等这些重要技能，我们的未来就会更加美好。

团结起来吧!通过改变我们以及他人看待问题的方式，来积极地看待问题，我们就能使这个世界变得更加美好。让我们携手将挑战变为现实吧!

妙译沙龙

Defeat, my Defeat, my solitude and my aloofness; Defeat, my Defeat, my self-knowledge and my defiance.

失败，我的失败，我的孤寂与冷漠；失败，我的失败，我的自知与反抗。

There are four kinds of forgiveness： The first is beginner forgiveness for yourself； The second kind of forgiveness is beginner forgiveness for another； The third kind of forgiveness is advanced forgiveness of yourself； The last and perhaps most difficult one is the advanced forgiveness of another.

宽恕有四种类型：第一种是指对自己的低层次的宽恕；第二种是指对他人过失的低层次的宽恕；第三种是指对自己更进一步的宽恕；第四种也许也是最难的宽恕，它是指对其他人的更进一步的宽恕。

One of the important lessons of life is to learn how to get victory out of defeat.

生活教给我们一堂重要的课就是怎样从失败中取得成功。

There are a lot of ways to become a failure, but never taking a chance is the most successful way.

导致失败的原因有很多，而不敢冒险是最彻底的一个。

With every thought and conversation for the next day or two,change the words “I have to” with the words “I get to”and see if it makes a difference in your day.

在接下来的一两天里，把每一件“我不得不做”的事情换成“我要去做”，看看你的生活是否会有所不同。

The failed experiments, however, are no less valuable than the experiments that ultimately prove successful; in fact, you usually learn more from your perceived“failures”than you do from your perceived “success”.

但是失败的经历和成功的经历一样具有可贵的价值。从成功中你可以学到东西，但事实上，你通常可以从失败中学到更多。

I will not allow yesterday's success to lull me into today's complacency, for this is the great foundation of failure.

我不因昨日的成功而满足，因为这是失败的先兆。

Part 2 Content Is A Kind Of Wi sdom 满足是一种智慧

How To Build Your Life 如何打造自己的生活

Every person creates his or her own reality. Authorship of your life is one of your absolute rights; yet so often people deny that they have the ability to script the life they desire. They look past the fundamental truth that it is not our external resources that determine our success or failure,but rather our own belief in ourselves and our willingness to create a life according to our highest aspirations.

Clearly, the challenge here is to create and own your own reality.When you begin to live your life understanding that what you make of it is up to you, you are able to design it according to your authentic choices and desires. You will learn lessons here, such as responsibility and limitlessness, which will lead you to the life you were meant to live.These lessons provide you with the essential tools you need in order to take command of your life.

To take responsibility means you admit your accountability and acknowledge your influence and role in the circumstances in which you find yourself. It means you are answerable for your behavior and you fully accept any consequences created by your actions.

To take responsibility will propel you forward and onward to your greater good. I know of a woman named Mary whose story of personal responsibility has always inspired me. Mary was born in Cuba and moved to Miami with her family when she was two years old. They lived in terrible poverty in a dangerous part of the city, where crime and drugs were part of everyday life. Mary was determined, however, even at the young age of eight, to make something of her life other than follow the expected route of becoming a maid, or a cashier at the local supermarket.So she got herself to school each and every day, sometimes having to step over drunks passed out in the doorway, just so she could get education and give herself a better life.

Mary eventually left Miami, obtained a good education, and fostered her natural music ability. Mary could have given in to the life she was born into, or remained mired in blaming her parents and culture for her circumstances. She could have refused to take responsibility for the situation. Instead, however, Mary took responsibility for herself and created a life of which she can be proud.

Responsibility is a major lesson of adulthood. If you still haven't learned the lesson of responsibility, it's not too late. Remember, life will provide you with plenty of opportunities to get it right.

Limitlessness, the final lesson you must learn is limitlessness, it is the sense that there are no boundaries to what you can become or do. You learn it when you know that your evolution is never-ending and your potential for growth reaches to infinity.

You were born knowing your limitlessness. As you grew and became socialized in this world, however, you might have come to believe that there are boundaries that prevent you from reaching the highest levels of spiritual, emotional, or mental evolution. However, boundaries exist only in your mind. When you are able to transcend them, you learn the lesson of limitlessness.

When I was young, I had a teacher who understood the importance of this lesson. She reminded us every day that we could do anything we set our minds to, no matter how impossible it might seem or how strong the opposition is. It is my sincere hope that there is a teacher like Mrs.Carbene in every school around the world, so that our children can know the wonder and power they have within themselves and will strive to access it. In this world, we have countless people who have proven that a person can do whatever he or she strives to do.

世上无难事，只怕有心人。有时你的心态决定你的成败，学会调整心态，才能步向成功……

参考翻译(胡艳)

每个人都在创造着自己的现实生活。享有自己的生活是你的绝对权利；然而，人们总是否认自己拥有描绘其生活的能力。他们忽视了这样一个基本的事实：决定我们成功或失败的不是外在条件，而在于我们对自己是否有信心，是否愿意根据自己的最高志向创造生活。

显然，这里的挑战就是创造并掌握自己的生活。当你开始自己生活，明白怎样生活取决于自己时，你就能按照自己真正的选择和意愿设计生活。你会在这里学到一些东西，比如承担责任和潜能无限，他们将带领你走进你想要的生活。他们将给予你掌握自己生活所需要的基本工具。

承担责任意味着承认自己负有责任，并承认自己对自身所处环境的影响和作用。它意味着你要对自己的行为负责，完全接受由你的行为所造成的一切后果。

承担责任将会促使你不断前进，直到创造出更美好的生活。我认识一位叫玛丽的女士，她对自己负责的故事一直鼓舞着我。玛丽出生在古巴，两岁时跟随全家搬到迈阿密。他们生活贫困，住在迈阿密最危险的地区，那里每天都充斥着犯罪和毒品。然而，玛丽在她八岁时就立志要干出一番事业，而不是走人们预期她该走的生活道路——当一个女佣或是当地超市的收银员。于是，她每天准时上学，有时不得不从那些醉倒在家门口的酒鬼身上迈过去，因为只有这样她才能受到教育，过上更好的生活。

玛丽最终离开了迈阿密，受到了良好的教育，发展了自己的音乐天赋。玛丽本应该屈从生来注定的生活，或者深陷于埋怨自己的父母和所属文化。她完全可以拒绝承担任何责任。然而，她对自己负责，并且创造了自己引以为豪的生活。

承担责任是每个成年人的主修课。如果你还没有学会这堂课，现在还不晚。记住，生活会给你提供足够多的机会让你学会。

潜力无限，你必修的最后一课是潜力无限，也就是说没有任何东西可以限制你成为想成为的人、做你想做的事。当你懂得自己的发展永无止境，自己的潜力无穷无尽时，你便学会了这一课。

你生来就知道自己的潜能。然而，随着你慢慢长大，融入社会生活，你可能开始相信有太多的限定阻碍你到达精神、情感和思想上的最高层次。然而，限定只存在你的心里。如果你能超越他们，那你就学会了潜力无限这一课。

我小时候的一位老师深谙无限这节课的重要性。她每天提醒我们：无论看起来多么不可能，或者受到重重阻挠，只要下决心，我们就能成就任何事。我衷心希望世界上的每一个学校都有一位像卡蓬夫人一样的老师，这样，我们的孩子就能知道自身拥有惊人的才能和力量，并努力向其奋进。在这个世界上，无数的人证明了这样一个道理：世上无难事，只怕有心人。

The Happy Valley 欢乐谷

“What,” said he, “makes the difference between man and all the rest of the animal creation? Every beast that strays beside me has the same corporal necessities with myself, he is hungry, and crops the grass, he is thirsty, and drinks the stream, his thirst and hunger are appeased, he is satisfied and sleeps; he rises again and he is hungry, he is again fed and is at rest. I am hungry and thirsty like him, but when thirst and hunger cease I am not at rest; I am, like him, pained with want, but am not, like him,satisfied with fullness. The intermediate hours are tedious and gloomy; I long again to be hungry that I may again quicken my attention. The birds peck the berries or the corn, and fly away to the groves where they sit in seeming happiness on the branches, and waste their lives in tuning one unvaried series of sounds. I likewise can call the lutanist and the singer,but the sounds that pleased me yesterday weary me today, and will grow yet more wearisome tomorrow. I can discover within me no power of perception which is not glutted with its proper pleasure, yet I do not feel myself delighted. Man has surely some latent sense for which this place affords no gratification, or he has some desires distinct from sense which must be satisfied before he can be happy.”

生命是一种过程而不是一个目的。苦和甜来自外界，体味幸福则来自内心。学会感恩，学会满足，让快乐溢满生命的花篮……

参考翻译(胡尊艳)

他问：“人和其他所有动物有何区别？生活在我们周围的所有野兽，都和我一样有身体上的渴求：饿了吃草，渴了喝水，充饥解渴后将心满意足地睡去；醒来又饿了，再吃饱睡觉。我和它们一样也会饥渴，但在酒足饭饱时，我不休息；我也像它们一样因饥饿而痛苦，但不会因需求丰裕而满足。中间这个阶段，冗长而又乏味；我又开始渴望饥饿，以再次集中我的注意力。小鸟啄食着浆果或谷物，好像非常快活地飞到树丛中，停靠在树枝上并且哼唱着一成不变的曲子来打发时间。同样，我也可以请来琵琶手和歌手为我演奏，但昨天还能使我愉悦的乐曲，今天却令我厌烦，明天则变得更令人厌倦。我从自身发现，没有一种感受力不是被适度愉悦充满的，但是我不觉得自己快乐。确实，人类有某种潜在的感觉，会告知自己这个地方不能令人满足，或者，在得到快乐之前，他有一些有别于那种感觉的渴望，必须先得到满足。”

Love Notes 爱的箴言

It's been over eleven years now. It was a wintry afternoon, the snow swirling around the cedar trees outside, forcing little icicles to form at the tips of the deep green foliage clinging to the branches.

My older son, Stephen, was at school, and Reed, my husband, at work. My three little ones were clustered around the kitchen counter,the tabletop piled high with crayons and markers. Tom was perfecting a paper airplane, creating his own insignia with stars and stripes, while Sam worked on a self-portrait, his chubby hands drawing first a head, then legs and arms sticking out where the body should have been. The children mostly concentrated on their work, Tom occasionally tutoring his younger brother on exactly how to make a plane that would fly the entire length of the room.

But Laura, our only daughter, sat quietly, engrossed in her project.Every once in a while she would ask how to spell the name of

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